My mother is a loving and caring type and sometimes she is a very complicated woman. But the way she lived her life, most people made noise and respected her as a man, she is not dependent on anyone and very hardworking. However, I cannot deny her dedication to me and my brothers and dedication to give us the best education we deserve without having enough income.
Since I live with my mom after high school, she complicated woman, but I love and respect her
There is a lot of time we argue and I will end up sleeping hungry.lol
However, there are many challenges living with our mother and it makes us feel that we are not loved by them.
Having a mom who complains a lot makes kids stinks, you know, but my mom is a mom who likes to make the best choice for us, my mom was the kind of person who doesn't want your own idea , you will do anything she asks you to do before she adopts your own ideas or suggestions.
Parental boundaries
This is quite difficult and sometimes leads to anger sometimes being dictated not to go somewhere when you are no longer a child. My mother has set limits for me, and my brothers. we are not allowed to leave the house after 7 p.m. Other than that, their is the limit of what we can do compared to what our friends are doing outside. There was a time when I went to Barb to get an "Afro" cut, as soon as she set her eyes on my new cut, it was a whole different story. All her beliefs are that anyone with hairstyles is a bad boy, but to me it's not about looks, but my mom makes it clear that it's about looks. "Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are".
She set boundaries with rules and that makes us so different with disciplines.
Personal space
Another challenge of living with our mother is that you have no personal space for yourself. There's a kind of personal life that you need to live as a man, you know. But if you live with your mother, you are not free because of the respect you have for her. More so, you won't be able to do anything at your own convenient time. Staying with my mother yehn, it's so complicated, at that time you want to rest or have a personal time for yourself, at that time she will demand your attention to do something for her. African mother's blood flows through my mother's veins. You know what this means if you have been to Africa or know an African mother.
She is so complicated that she won't bother herself with sticks, but her arguing and talking is like a thunderstorm in my head and it always makes me cry more than I get hit.
I don't know, maybe you've been a victim where you just made a small mistake, but all day your mom won't stop correcting the mistakes
Priceless relationship
Despite her harshness towards us, she is a kind of caring mother who looks after her children all their lives. My mother takes all responsibility as I have lived with her since childhood.
She faces a lot of financial instability trying to raise us, but that doesn't mean she's giving up on us. My mother has no extra clothes for a party, she has used all her savings to raise me and my brothers. She sacrifices a lot of luxury life of her friend who lives on their income and puts everything on us.
When I am away she will make sure to hear from me every day, regardless of how it has been for her to charge her line, the same goes for others. I love everything about my mom, mothers are priceless gems