I think your brother is right. The trick is to figure out what my own design would be. I was thinking about the whole state of the world today while watching the American election debate. And it's like how life is with all these distractions. Many years ago I found myself in a very nice job which had an incredible amount of workplace drama. I was so focused on who did what and what did they mean and confusion. And then my mum said to me (she was a therapist :) ) You know, if they keep on doing that, you will get tired of them and leave. And I realize that she was so smart there. She brought it back to, what is my interest and viewpoint. Not why are they doing what they do, but rather is that environment a right fit for me. I will always remember how she framed things to give perspective. I find it interesting now with the world being thrown back and forth in a way with all these opinions. And sometimes maybe people could just stop and think "what do I care for?"? So I am also into that advice that your brother would say. I'm really thinking about what that really means though so that I can apply it, you know. Do the design. Thank you for the welcome!