A child's upbringing by both parents is so much needed in the life of the child. Children require their parent's support at all times just to make them fully required in the surrounding environments. Some mothers ended up becoming single mothers just as a result of either losing their husbands to death, divorce, or something else. Most of them left their husbands without waiting as a result of fighting, while some gave birth to their kids without being properly married to a man. All these can somehow affect the child's upbringing.
Being raised by both parents has a long way to go, as the child would listen to the voices of two parents, mother and father.
In another case, some single parents know how to take care of their children as they don't tolerate nonsense. They can take care of them to their taste. I know many of them. One in my domain has divorced her husband for so long now. When they were divorcing, they were dragging who would take care of the child. At that time, their child was still three years old. They dragged the issue to court, after which it was resolved that the mother should take proper care of the girl. She took her home and started the realm of care for the child. Although the man was advised to always send money for the child's upbringing monthly. He did not object to that fact. He was sending in money monthly, but through one of the woman's sisters for record's sake.
Likewise, he was sending tangible amounts of money monthly without complaints. After a year of sending, it leaked to the hearing of the man that the woman was complaining to people that he was not sending money. He was angered and stopped sending for a few months. However, he asked everyone who said those words to ask her sister if he was not sending money. He was talked to and started sending money for the upbringing and upkeep of the baby. The girl was taken care of by the mother, and it was a nice upbringing anyway. She grew to mingle with people around, and if not told, one would think she was brought up by both parents. She was well-nurtured and had manners. She went to public school and was matured educationally.
So, when a child is brought up by a single mother or father, most times the child would come out to be great, but in most cases, he or she would come out to be something else.
Pampering a child too much can lead to a rough life. Such a child would not see the reasons for being who he or she is in this life.
Another one who is close to me happened to be a man. He pampered the child to the extent of making the child see the other side of life. He was mannerless. No one would talk to him without talking back at that person. He grew to become who he was not supposed to be. His mother saw him and regretted leaving her son with the father. This means that most times, single parents have no good ability to take care of their children.
Some of them got involved with what their parents were doing. This is while people do call it “like mother or father, like daughter or son.”. Watching over your child is so important, and also talking sense to such a child can go a long way to becoming a better person in the world.
To me, it depends on the way the child is being handled. If you handle such a child with levity, he or she would also look at things around with levity by putting up a different character. If the child is handled with an iron hand, such a child would see the world to be a better place to be and would see people in a better way than others. He would be accepted generally by people. A child mingling with bad boys or girls without talking sense to such a child can lead to the destruction of the child's life for real, but when you talk to such a child in some sense, the child will see the world in a different way.
Both parents handling the child is the best, but most times, they look away from the child instead of taking proper care of such a child.
