In a recent study it was found that women spent more time in front of the mirror than men, In fact, there was no need to do any study on this topic as it’s a fact they also know quite well 🙂 but the point here is what they look for in the mirror, again it’s self-explanatory, anyways idea here is not to make fun of it but to understand the Mirror Image.
If we seriously consider this object, it gives us a true reflection of what we are. If one can seriously try standing in front of the mirror and see what it reflects we can find our self what we are. Since you can see deep into your eyes and that will help you to figure out your own personality.
Once discovered what you are and started truly loving yourself, and further focusing on your inner peace and wellness will bring you cheers and happiness, The problem arises when we create a wish list of what we want in terms of our life partner which creates an image in front of us.
The problem is that we involve ourselves so much in finding out the external image that we created in our mind that we lose touch with the parts of ourselves that are wise and conscious. The attachment to this false identity leads to a feeling of desperation rather than fulfillment. We become dependent on that person and fearful of loneliness.
We all have a rough idea of what our perfect partner is like with the basic needs to have a happy lifestyle. The problem comes when we find ourselves in a relationship and we are constantly comparing our partners with this Image. When that happens, we stop appreciating our partners for all the beautiful qualities they do possess.
The truth is this perfect person does not exist. More importantly, we may not actually need all of these qualities in a partner to be extraordinarily happy. What we need is to identify the most important qualities that we have in order to feel satisfied and fulfilled.
In the end, one thing to conclude is understanding who you are and what you need is more important than what he/she is and what you want him/her to be. When you are in search of someone just look at a mirror in terms of the eyes of that person and if you can find yourself deep in that, you might end your search there but that doesn’t mean that eye is the only factor you should look at in your partner :).
