I’m beginning to learn a lot of things recently and in as much as I love it for me, it’s a little overwhelming especially at this age. One of the things I’ve learned recently that I would like to share is that universal struggle.
My sister was talking about her failed romantic relationship on the phone yesterday and I couldn’t help but eavesdrop because it was interesting. Apparently, the reason why it didn’t work out with the guy was because he was always talking about things he was going through.
Knowing my sister as probably the best listener I’ve ever met and for her to say it out she got tired of always listening to him unpack his problems, then he probably overdid it. And I was right. After the call, she saw me walking about and that was a sign of me wanting to ask her to tell me more so she did even without me asking.
He wasn’t only telling her what was happening to him all the time, but he was also using those things as excuses for his actions. And when I say actions, I mean going MIA for days with his phone on airplane mode, being so rude sometimes and a whole lot of things.
And I’m sure that made everything go south so quick. It’s already kind of draining to unpack all that you are going through on someone even once a while than to do it all the time, and also say your irresponsibility is because of what you are going through.
Everyone is going through something. I heard someone say “the fact that I can carry my burden well doesn’t mean I don’t have one” and I think it’s very valid. There are people who are going through so much but are not so much of talkers so they’d rather keep to themselves.
There are also people who don’t mind sharing what they are going through. Whichever one is fine. But I just don’t think it’s okay to blame the fact that you are not being a good person on you going through something. I don’t think it’s okay to use the excuse of “I’m going through a lot ” to be very irresponsible.
Everyone is going through a lot so anytime you think of being lousy just because of the issues you are facing, remember that.
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