Just some days ago, I had a very deep conversation with someone about us. I mean he liked me, I liked him but my brain was not going towards his direction. Months ago, I would have said he was everything I ever wanted in a man but if you ask me today I might end up choking on my words. I used to think I didn’t have any “speck”. For a long time I didn’t really think I had a list of things I look forward to seeing in a man until recently.
Oh I remember talking about how food could get my attention but then that attention only goes for the food if that makes. So for this person I’m talking about, we’ve gone on several dates, tried out new places, new food and all but we didn’t even pass friendship stage because nothing was pushing me. I wasn’t feeling any butterflies in my tummy. In fact I was even calling him bro at some point unintentionally. What I realized was that he was average smart and sometimes I have to explain myself over and over again for him to get my point.
I’m not saying he should be able to read my mind but then I think sometimes explaining yourself twice or more becomes exhausting so you go like “Nevermind, it’s nothing”. I know in Ghana, saying you’re dumb when you’re smart means you’re humble but let me not be humble just this time. I am a really intelligent person. Sometimes I try so hard to tone it down. Most times I go like “ I don’t know”, “my brain is blank” just to give space for the other person to also share his/her ideas.
So for someone like me, I will always want someone who is more intelligent than me, more smarter than me. One of the problems I have with friends is that, anytime there’s an issue, they think I’m acting smart so they go like “Abena don’t act smart”, whiles in my head, I’m being dumb. This only means one thing, my man should be able to reciprocate that smartness.You probably have realized I’m using both smart and intelligent. Well, that’s because I could just throw a deep question to my man anytime.
There are particular conversations that I would mostly like to be having with my man. If you’re not intelligent, the probability that you might fumble is high. The other day, I was having a normal conversation with my friend and I switched it to Greenhouse gases. Guess what? We spoke about it nicely and moved on to other things, in fact I learned a lot from that conversation. I have no doubt if it were to be someone else, he would have said I’m weird or “Abena which one too is this”.
Well, I have come to agree that I am Sapiosexual. I tried so hard and for so many years to run away from it but it didn’t work so here I am. You like me? Then I suppose your IQ is through the roof.