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Today parents is so much different than the time we had twenty to thirty years back.
Previously parents will keep asking their children to learn what you are best at.
Modern parents now will force their child to learn whatever comes into their mind. Like learn piano, learn ballet, learn dancing, learn drawing.....etc all is manage by the parents.
现今父母跟我们二三十年前所面对的大不相同了。以前我们家长是支持我们鼓励我们，要我们做我们拿手的。现今家长是什么都已经安排好了，如学钢琴，学跳舞芭蕾舞，画画。。。。等等
Below is some of the points I picked from what I had seen from the blog or writer online. For references only.
以下我会写出几点我在网络和一些作者的文篇搜取。
competition between parents
- parents comparing their children against each others. Picking those who is having better results. These doesn't mean that the best is always winner. And parents who is afraid of losing will tend to force their children to do more. Result of this may lead to a bad childhood experience.
害怕输在起跑点
孩子成长是不能拿来相比。如果什么都要比别人好的，快的那么孩子身心可能就跟不上，而的反效果。孩子成长归例的不是我们给他们多学习就能比别人好的多。Action speak better than words.
Parents always forget that one of the best teaching is our action not our wisdom.
We always forget that children follow action more than words from mouth. They don't learn from we told them "what is correct"说教与身教
现在家长们都是说一而自己却做别的。如要孩子吃饭不玩手机但自己却在玩。
对孩子多尊重他们就对你一样。
3）'Bribing' by buying them whatever they want.
In order to have the children do a parents bidding like do whatever they want like getting a better score, finishes the food they don't like. Parents alwAys will just say if you so and so and so, I will buy you a ......
- 用【買】來滿足孩子或使孩子听话
父母想要滿足孩子，只要掏出口袋裡的錢，就能買到各式各樣的東西，從買玩具、買課程、父母買給孩子的東西不斷增加，卻不見得能增加孩子的快樂。因为这些都不是他们要的而是家长要的。
4） A second chance thru them
Getting too high hope from them and then suddenly it is not all about them but a second chance about us. This will confuse the child and may destroy their
happiness as childhood.
- 家长的第二希望
要求过高而使得孩子们忘了是自己要过的童年还是家长。过度的希望反而变成家长的第二次童年。
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We may not want our child to fail but it is essential for them to experience it. Intervene too much of their activities is it a correct and we may need to ask ourself is it what tbey want or are we over protecting them. As a saying 'short term pain is better than long term pain' it is how we see it not how we want it.