I've always been a rather proud person. Definitely when it comes to asking favors from others.
I got raised, being pointed out it's something you just don't do, and I never really questioned it until recently.It's kind of funny that the person, who taught me this, was actually the person who was asking the most favors!
Either way. A few years ago I got asked to bring my mom to a certain location again, where she'd take the bus to go on a holiday and when I told her I couldn't,she got mad at me.
That moment it struck me that on the one hand she was taking me for granted, and on the other hand I expected appreciation and respect in return for the things I did for her. So we were both doing the things we did for selfish reasons!
So that was my wake up call. I decided from then on I'd only do favors if I could do them from an angle with no expectations.
What I realized is, when you decide to do a favor for someone, you feel good because you were able to help the other person out with something they couldn't do themselves. That by itself is a nice enough reward. This doesn't mean we should just do anything for anyone of course!
On top of that they themselves will be more likely to help you out in the future as well. It shouldn't be your goal but it's a nice benefit either way, wouldn't you say?
When asking for a favor yourself on the other hand, you actually might get people to like you more if they end up doing it! This psychological effect is called the cognitive dissonance effect, where a person holds simultaneously 2 or more contradictory ideas, beliefs or values. Because why would you have done a favor for someone you didn't even like to begin with, right?!
Let's try this! :p "Let's all just upvote this post so it gets that nice top spot on the trending page... euhm...please?" (like that's ever going to happen, but hey! A girl can dream, right?!). No but for real, feel free to show some love to this post if you liked it! It would mean the world to me! <3
I also want you guys to drop links to your favorite posts (can be both of yourself and of others! Let's spread this Steemit <3 ye?!
Here are some other posts you might like!
How I got off my couch and started to run: https://steemit.com/health/@athenajade/couch-to-5k
On how language influences us: https://steemit.com/psychology/@athenajade/do-we-speak-the-same-language
On absolute truths: https://steemit.com/psychology/@athenajade/debate-1-is-there-such-a-thing-as-an-absolute-universal-truth
On the limitations our conditioning puts upon us: https://steemit.com/life/@athenajade/this-inner-cage-called-conditioning
On growing our own potential: https://steemit.com/life/@athenajade/whatever-you-are-doing-you-are-getting-better-at-it
