18th series of my Marriage redefined course (The strengths and weak...

Today i bring you the fourth quadrant of the Temperaments - PHLEGMATIC(Introvert).

To the observer, the Phlegmatic is extremely slow-paced and stubborn. He goes through life doing as little as possible, quietly, and expending little energy. It is not clear whether the Phlegmatic has very little energy, or it is because they refuse to use what little energy they do have. They are task oriented with a great capacity for work that requires precision and accuracy and expends a minimal amount of energy. Only sleep can regenerate a Phlegmatic.

The world may never know all the brilliant thoughts, great books, spectacular works of art, or wonderful ministries that have been buried with the Phlegmatic. They seldom, if ever, use these ideas and talents because it would require expending to much energy and effort, to put these ideas into action. Let's consider some of the strengths and weaknesses of a Phlegmatic Husband.

Strength of a Phlegmatic Husband

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Fiifi phlegmatic is the easiest person to get along with and is by nature the most likeable of the temperaments.
He is ailm and unruffled and never seems agitated no matters the circumstances around him.
He is consistent everytime he is seen.
He feels much more emotion than appears on the surface.
He has the capacity to appreciates the fine arts the better things of life.
He does not like friends because he enjoys people and has a natural dry sense of humour.
He is the type of individual who can make a crowd of people shake with laughter and yet never smile.
He is capable of seeing something humorous in others and their actions and so maintains a positive approach to life.
He has a retentive memory and capable of being a fine imitator.
He usually makes fun of the other temperament kinds.
The phlegmatic tends to be a spectator in life and tries not to get very involved with the activities of others.
He is not easy to motivates past his usual daily routine.
When roused to action however, he is capable and his efficient qualities becomes apparent.
He will not volunteer for leadership on his own but when it is forced on him, he proves to very capable leader.
He acts as a natural peace-maker.
He is kind and rarely gets angry. He has a way of getting what he wants done.

His Weaknesses

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He lacks drive and ambition.
He rarely exceeds the status quo and he always seems to do the expected.
He rarely initiates an activity and usually gives excuses in order to avoid getting involved with the activities of others.
He is selfish although this is usually not so obvious and he is so gracious and proper that few people are aware of it. Selfishness makes him self-indulgent and unconcerned about his family's need for activity.
He is miserly except for clothes for himself or tools for his work.
No-one can be more stubborn than a phlegmatic but he is so diplomatic about it that people do not realise it.
He never openly confronts another person or refuses to do something but will somehow manage not to do it.
In family situations, he often doesn't yell or argue, he just drags his feet or refuses to move.
He can be exasperating to a more aggressive partner by his passive, laid-back style. Sanguines and cholerics particularly struggle with phlegmatic spouses because they are used to making quick and headstrong decision.
A phlegmatic person could be mistaken for a christian even as an unbeliever.
He is polite and diplomatic and diplomatic about the expression of the old sinful nature.
One of the chief weaknesses is that he has very little motivation.
He is very fearful under the surface and this fear can cause many problems.
Phlegmatic are prone to procrastination.
Tend to make slow, methodical decisions which can enrage the other temperaments.
In marriage, it becomes very easy for a phlegmatic to give up all decision-making to his more powerful and lively spouse.
Financially, he is an unmotivated man and is not likely to achieve much. He may not be rich, successful or progressive. He may often be miserly and not provide much.
Sexually, he is unmotivated. He is more laid-back and flows with whatever is given to him.
He is not likely to communicate the right things e.g he may use diplomacy at the expense of his family. He falls asleep the moment he sits down and may not likely to take his family out.
Emotionally, he is fearful to many things and prone to worry . He can also be ruled by his wife.
Spiritually he is unmotivated and laid-back and without drive. Not the type who is likely to start or create something.
He may have several loyalties, yet he is nicely and diplomatically balanced. He is not strongly attracted to anyone; you have to know him to know his real heart of loyalty.
He is prone to procrastination and is likely to leave important things undone. He takes his time about things and usually very stubborn.
**He may never propose marriage and may never marry.
If he happens to marry, he is not likely to be the one to discipline his children.
He doesn't like to take the lead or decision.
He can be stingy, stubborn and selfish in a diplomatic way.
He can crawl into a shell of silence if things don't work out. src)

In next series, i'll try to complete the course on Temperaments. So please stay tuned.

For past series, see below.

18th series of my Marriage redefined course (The strengths and weaknesses of a Phlegmatic Husband)

Strength of a Phlegmatic Husband

His Weaknesses

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