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Normally, people can experience downfall and happy moments in life. It may be our choice or not, we can always experience how to be happy and sad. There is no technology or machine that can measure how we feel inside. It just about connection and how we communicate other people, so they can somehow understand and feel what we feel. We have various reasons why we can't express and tell our true feelings to someone. Looking through eyes without any word means a lot.
Smiling doesn't mean someone is happy. Crying doesn't mean someone is sad.
Unfornately, nowadays, most people wear masks in order to hide how they truly feel and not showing off their flaws and scars. The reason for this is that people judge and make fun of someone flaws instead of encouraging and helping him/her to face, heal and improve his/her mishaps.
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We maybe have a lot of friends but only few of them are truly sincere and genuine to what you have. It takes someone to know and understand the true you. It is not a burden and loss to be a good friend to someone. It is a blessing and one of a kind boon that you couldn't buy through money.
Experiencing a rough ride in life is normal. It always depend on the situation and how we will going to face it. Some might make it as an inspiration and others may not. Some will going to hangout with their friends to have a drink and many more ways. Although, the solution of a certain problem may vary on the situation, person and environment. The most common way to vent out and express it is through a conversation with someone who knows you more than anybody else and someone you trust the most. They may be give you a suggestions, their opinions and advice but the most powerful act is giving a HUG. It may sounds very cringy but it is effective.
In a drama that I am currently watching right now, one scenario inspires me to make this blog is when the guy, who is a good and popular actor in the drama and very secretive and silent about his life and enduring things by himself and faking smiles to anyone even if it hurts him, confronted the woman, who is a radio main writer and very passionate and affectionate girl who really strives to be a good radio writer, and shared everything about his life for the first time and then the woman felt guilty and understand why the guy acted like a jerk, rude and cold person to anyone. She alsotold him that she was very sorry for saying bad things about him and gives him a hug.
Because a hug means:
You want someone to stop crying in your arms.
You want someone not feel sad in your arms.
You want to embrace him/her.
You accept him/her.
A sign of telling someone, "I am here for you" or "I will always support you no matter what happen".
In our modern culture, hugs are seen as pretty commonplace. Commonly. the first thing you do when you meet someone, is to hug a friend, coworker, distant family member, or etc, whether in celebration or support. This makes me wonder: Why do we hug, anyway?
- Normally, we receive a lot of hugs in our early years.A hugs were something a parent gave to a small child, someone under the age of four, when they were in a state of emotional distress or ill. Basically, people understood that very small children wouldn't be comforted with reason, so they gave hugs to show support and affection instead. At this point, hugging someone was similar to giving them a pat on the head or cradling them, as we still would do with a small child who is upset or sick.
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We receive less hugs during adolescence.As we move toward adulthood, we're generally denied hugs — not necessarily 100 percent of the time, but more than when we were children. The idea is that, as we become more mature, rational beings, we don't require the same affection and reassurance shown through a physical act, like a hug or pat on the head, that we did when we were young. If you've ever heard people say that they need to "stop babying" their children as a reason for not giving them hugs, it probably goes back to the same root mentality that hugs are something for children who cannot otherwise comprehend their world and feelings.
Looking and craving for hugs as we get older.So, why do we adults still want hugs? The psychology behind hugging says it's regressive, but not necessarily a bad thing. In our culture, it can feel like an embarrassment or a failure to admit we need some support or a shoulder to cry on, but in fact these feelings are normal. When we no longer get hugs from our parents we replace them with hugs from friends, siblings, or even our friends in the office. On an innate level, we all relate to feelings of stress, fear, and disappointment, so we all relate to the desire to give or receive a hug at some point in our adult lives.
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