THINGS TO LOOK OUT FOR BEFORE SAYING “I DO” TO AVOID MARITAL TRAGEDY
Marriage is a significant life experience many look forward to having throughout the course of their lives. It is a significant turning point in anyone's life; a unique period in one's life when making the commitment to love and appreciates someone through good and bad times is very important. But while getting married is undoubtedly an exciting and momentous occasion, it’s far from the only life-changing and all-important event a person can experience.
It doesn’t matter the grand wedding you had, the gifts you received, or the kinds of guests that attended your wedding There are lots of things to think about before you get married. You must understand the commitment that you are making to your partner; some vital elements of a marriage must be considered. In light of this, it's advisable not to rush into marriage, even if you've been with your partner for some time.
So, if you are indeed concerned about what to expect after getting married, this article outlines things to consider before getting married.
Things to look out for:
1. Compatibility: Marrying someone you are not compatible with could be a disaster along the way. Compatibility is a necessary component of every successful marriage. It is important that you analyze your compatibility before tying the knot. It is important that you look beyond the initial romantic feelings and assess whether you have towards each other and check if you both have a strong understanding of each other and can communicate openly and honestly. Compatibility between you and your spouse should be about complement each other and recognizing that their weakness and strength makes you both better. Compatibility also encompasses things like values, beliefs, interests, and objectives.
2. Commitment: First, you must be convinced about the person you’re marrying and decide to commit to them because marriage always has hard times. Being committed to each other means you’re both ready to go through the rough terrains and territories together. While love can be fleeting, commitment is a promise to keep loving each other.
Commitment in marriage means staying by your partner’s side through all the ups and downs. It helps you develop other virtues such as patience and discipline, crucial in a relationship. There may be times that you might wonder if you made the right decision, commitment is what helps you weather those tough times and helps you rediscover your love for them again.
If you are not committed physically, mentally, and spiritually to your partner or you feel your partner is not ready to commit to you, you might want to reconsider your decision to tie the knot to avoid stories that touches the heart. Commitment is one of the most important topics you should discuss with your partner before tying the knot.
3. Effective Communication:Healthy communication equals a happy marriage. Communication can make or break a relationship. When you don't communicate well, misunderstanding and conflicts sets in, oftentimes leading to a failed relationship. It's important for you to speak efficiently, freely, and honestly with one another no matter where no matter where they are in their marriage journey.
And you're right, no partner in a relationship should feel shy or timid about expressing their feelings at any point. Neither of you should have second thoughts about sharing your needs, desires, pain points, and thoughts. Communication plays an essential role in overcoming disagreements and misunderstandings and enhancing relationships between you and your partner. It's one of the most important things to discuss before getting married.
4 Financial Compatibility: Money is a frequent source of contention in many relationships. Being able to take care of yourself financially means you're not getting married because you need someone else, but because you want to. Have self-worth and be able to stand on your own two feet, incase things don't work out.
You and your partner should analyze your financial compatibility before getting married. This involves talking about debt, saving, and spending patterns.
5. Personal Growth: Marriage is a process of personal development and progress. Before saying “yes I do”, you must have deep discussions to determine individual values and goal. Partners must make a commitment to each other's personal growth, development and respecting each other’s values. This means supporting one another to achieve their dreams and ambitions. You need to have mutual understanding of each other’s aspirations for purpose, for family, for kids and for career. When you're on the same page, it can help you both accelerate each other's success. The bottom line
I am sure that from the foregoing, that you are now aware that getting married is a big commitment that you can't just jump into without being prepared, right? There are many things to learn before walking down the aisle, some of which I have discussed above. Marriage is like entering new territory, an open sea that you must navigate together. make sure you understand your partner and everything that comes with marriage before you finally settle down. And of course, love is very important else why should you even talk about getting married?
Understand your partner, make sure you are on the same page, learn and grow as you go.
I am IDONGESIT SAMPSON; Thanks for reading.