I believe this is a coincidence, as it was only yesterday that myself, my friend, and her mum were talking about all of the wedding shenanigans.
While my friend talked about doing a ceremony she and her partner could comfortably afford which wouldn't affect them adversely after the party, I hinged on holding a zoom/online call kind of wedding. My mom(family) would stand against it, but guess who's still going to go through with her wish?....Nah, not me. It's just vivid imagination.
UnsplashWe talked about all the wedding drama especially regarding food and late attendance. I wasn't in the least concerned. If e set, na wetin de my mind I go do.
You'd think I dislike weddings, but I don't. It's s thing worth celebrating - two individuals coming together to form an alliance and and live their lives for/with themselves. Beautiful thing!
I did lots of bridal train(little bride and flower girl) duties growing up that I don't know why and when I grew to avoid the ceremonies at present.
The last wedding ceremony I attended happened in June last year and it was unavoidable. My sister's wedding. That was after over ten years of being under such atmosphere.
Well, I skipped the church event but then, that's aside, as that is even not where the annoying stuff happens. It happens during the reception event. I'd use my sister's ceremony as an instance.
From the beginning, reception was to begin by one pm but it wasn't until past three that it held. The African time thing played quite evidently but that wasn't just it. The Mc wasn't early to the event, It took quite some extra while to make final touches to the hall, the bride had to change up too and do some touches to her makeup. The wedding party had to be rushed and it took some of the vibe out of it. Frankly, I cannot tell one very sensible reason why that event started later than it should but I was already fagged out before it started(that's a lie....I was already mentally exhausted before I arrived the ceremony. Just wasn't my scene).
Then, there's the couples feeding/toast. The Mc made sure the bride knelt to feed her husband cause according to him, she may never ever do it again. It was laughable. Annoyingly laughable. Just too faux and forced for my liking. Like, what's the essence? There's a ton of stuff to do to add spice to the ceremony but feeding was what they chose. Something the couple have been doing in ordinary "talking stage." People sha need to start giving the Mcs of their ceremonies small warning beforehand. If I would not even get started on the games these MCs come up with that sometimes are disrespectful, in most cases, to the bridal train.
My usual approach to events is to sit by a corner and not get any attention to myself but during my sister's wedding, it eluded me. It was then that I realized that I know almost everyone that she did, from her then-past to then-present colleagues and bosses, to friends, acquaintances, church members and all. In course of my running around, I kept a few of my stuff back at my table and before my return, the drinks(for myself and my friends) were no longer there. I couldn't ask who must have taken them cause I could see some other occupants of my table mixing beer and soft drink in a glass cup. I didn't recall anyone of them getting soda. People can be so shameless when it comes to refreshments at parties. I couldn't even say a word.
Then the attitudes towards food. Tsk! I don't know what is it with people and occasion food but the madness needs to stopped. Rather than sit and wait to be served, some persons would go up to the caterers acting like they've not had a meal in years, thereby disrupting the workflow of the servers. Some go as far as lying to get extra plates. All for food. Like how you go dress fine finish come de act like less privilege? I detest it so much. Those who are in charge of serving food are not left out of the blame. The man-know-man thing they usually do is irritating. Truth is, even if food is packaged in takeaway and given to guests as they step into the halls, there'd still be complaints. Infact ehn, just leave occasion food matter and eat from the house to avoid gbese.
Finally, on the last thing i dont fancy about weddings and a number of persons might not agree with this but kissing, during weddings. is very unnecessary. Like, to what end? It's just gross.
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