We really need to be very very careful about importing other peoples pain into our life, please leave them with their experiences infact, let them learn their lessons.
Your mums pain for example is unique to her marriage, always learn to let it remain there.
We need to understand that The counsel that seldom comes from such advice from a pained person will most likely create our own pain, and believe me, it is not about being vigilant, it matters a great lot who is counselling you.
After-all, there is a saying that goes thus;
You cant give what you don't have
If the person that you are seeking counselling from is bleeding, trust me, you will bleed too, and you will likely bleed m ore than them.
Nobody is qualified to counsel until they are completely healed.
I have a perfect scenario and I would like to use that as illustration.
The mother of the guy called and asked what he was doing, he answered he was cooking, and the next thing the woman said was so this your wife has used your head to wash plates, look at your life of which the family is happy before the call
The guy would then be forced to have a re-think and boom, problem sets in.
Be very careful who you take counsel from, most often than not, you will see people shielding their relationship, but we keep exposing ours to them.
Learn to share your problems only in the midst of those you are sure will likely counsel you and lead you right.
Thanks for reading through, see you next time.