MARRYING ON THE REBOUND

People who have been hurt in a former relationship or marriage often feel discouraged and depressed, with their self-esteem lying in the dirt. They are quick to jump headlong into a new relationship with the first person who comes along offering sym- pathy or concern.

By this they hope not only to ease their hurt but prove to themselves that there is nothing wrong with them. You don’t have to get married to prove that you are all right; there are other ways to do that. It gets back to the self-image issue. If you’re okay, you’re okay; marriage won’t change that one way or the other.

The problem with marrying on the rebound is that it is not a marriage of love, but of convenience. You’re hurting and doubting yourself, and along comes someone who sympathizes with you and shows compassion.

Both of you may mistake this for true love and make a quick decision to get mar- ried. In reality, however, no love is involved. For you it is only a marriage of convenience, a “quick and easy” way out of your dilemma. Don’t fall for it. A “rebound” marriage is destined for trouble.

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