I like the point you make regardless love as value.
It seems that most people seek certain attributes in a mate, both unconsciously and consciously, but without understanding our true selves we are only chasing surface values at best.
In regards to "self-love", I believe the best thing one can do is make yourself the best version of yourself possible.
Do this while simultaneously holding a high standard for the people you interact with, and this will filter through the "valueless" people in your life that damage you.
It certainly seems to be a continually evolving process, but what better way to pursue life than to become better and find more valueable people every day of ones life?
Excellent read! Thanks for posting,
RE: What is love?