There is no denying the fact that love is such a beautiful thing. We all want to feel the thrill and highs of it. We all want to feel the “cloud 9” moments while being with the one we love. Love with our partner completes us, in a way.
Love is sweet and it hurts too. It requires conscious efforts and it has it’s guidelines too. Another heart is involved apart from yours, so you might be a little bit more careful when dealing with your other human.
Many times, we have been hurt, and sometimes we feel the impulse in our hearts not to ever love again. But then, another person shows up and we find ourselves in love again, and for some, the cycle continues. It hurts, so much.
When you have been hurt, and it is more than your heart can take, it is better to allow yourself heal first, before involving another heart into it. While you are trying to find yourself, don’t hurt another person in turn.
Don’t become the person who hurt you.
Heal first. Yes, love heals and can mend your heart faster. It can even cure a heart made of stone. I always tell people that, the cure for a broken heart is love. With love, you see people take a more open approach and do ridiculous things they never thought they could do. Love opens you up, but it requires a process.
Many people fall right back in love again and it is not a bad thing. This post is not to point accusing fingers to those who fall in love right back after being terrible hurt. It is even to commend them for knowing the state of their heart and balancing things. We all deal with hurts and pains differently, and you need to know what works for you, based on the series of events you have been seeing in your life.
When you have been hurt, it is best you take time out to recover. Don’t rush into another. Most of the time when we have been hurt, it shatters our self-confidence, and make us think we are not good enough. Take time out first, to love yourself, before you allow another person love you. When you love yourself first, then can you be able to show your partner how you deserve to be loved, without giving any discount. You cannot give what you don’t have. When you love yourself first, then can you understand how to love another.
When you don’t allow the process to happen after a massive heartbreak, you have left yourself in a vulnerable state. A state where you can accept any kind of love, and when you do, only much later would you be able to see what a great mistake you have made. For some, it can be corrected and leaves a scar. For others, it can’t, and you end up living with it.
To be continued…
Thank you for your time.
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Still me,
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.