There is a trouble brewing for Ishan. Although easy skill set is spearheading his growing stature at work, people who are mostly always around him are getting put off because of his seemingly egotistical attitude. He is vocal about judging other people based on their appearance and status and openly gossips about people. You would think he would change for the better but the problem is that he is an aware of how he is coming across his colleagues. This is precisely what blind spots do to you.
Blind spots in psychology are personality traits that are obvious to everyone but us. We may feel we are highly self-aware but there may still be a vital gap between what we think we know about ourselves and the perception some people hold about us. In Ishan's case giving him the benefit of doubt would mean that he is an aware of negative vibes that emanate from him or else he would let go of his false self-image.
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The first step to addressing a blind spot requires opening ourselves to feedback. This is difficult yet critical because people typically be reluctant to mirror us with the fear that relations may breakdown. Our friend and partners would be the best ones to educate us about our blind spots but friends mostly just want to have fun when with us and our ex-partners wouldn't be bothered. However, there are still a few strategies we can work on to become more aware of our blind spot.
Asking, ‘How am I difficult to be around?’ This question is brilliant because it gives an impression of openness that we have accepted we can sometimes be rather crazy. You can ask a closed ally to name five adjectives that describe the negative sides of you may inadvertently be carrying with you. Once you are aware, then you can regulate your behaviour.
Role playing can be a great way for you to visualise how you go about particular scenarios of life by asking a trusted person to impersonate you. You will get a third person perspective on how you come across.
‘What is likely to stop me from going to my full potential?’ is another great question with which you can approach your support group. Once you cleanse the fog, then you can figure a way to get where you want to be.
Taking the time out to our this or full question to people who cares about you and want the best for you will help you access your blind spots. If you are authentic about you need to know what your blind spots are, your loved one happily echo the sentiments of people who have experienced your down side but wouldn't necessarily address them to you. A diverse support group can add perspective rather than just asking one or two people from the same context. For example, your blind spots as a husband or son may be different from colleague at work.
Both context are important.It would be fantastic if you acknowledge that we are by no means perfect? Such humility would then pay the way for us to start working towards becoming a better version of ourselves but personally and professionally.
