Oh boy, So many people these days don't have the slightest idea of what they want.
That is a lie.
I feel that most people deep down have an idea of the type of life they want to live, But the problem is, They aren't sure how to get there. And they don't have the motivation to get off their butt. They also aren't willing to put in the work, Because they over estimate it.
I became self-employed at age 24, I thought I'd be in my mid-thirties when I achieved this, But I overestimated the work it took. As long as you build a strong foundation and have a plan, it comes easy.
It's easy to get stuck in the long term
We all should have short term and long term goals. But the problem is, Sometimes we focus too much on the short term or too much on the long term. I realized I was dealing with this issue over the last year.
Even though I am now in my dream career being self-employed, I quickly realized I have a serious issue to figure out.
I want to move out of Utah, I want to move to another country, But I haven't even left the country yet.
I can't just pack up my bags and think
"Japan sounds nice"
" Oh wait, I like the thought of living in Europe."
I haven't even traveled to these places; I may end up there and decide I hate it. I may also get myself in a bad situation.
I don't know how to drive a car
You could argue that with self-driving cars becoming a reality, and Uber, Lyft, etc. I probably don't HAVE to learn how to drive. And that's correct, I've been on this planet for 24 years and haven't needed a car. I've also held off on getting one because I figure if I move out of country, I'd have to resell it, and the value would go down, I'd lose money blah blah
This is an example of being TOO LONG TERM.
You need to think realistically about what you want. You can't say I want to be " a Millionaire" in 2 months When you only make 2,000 a month. Sure, You could get lucky. But there is a good chance you'll fail.
Over the last year I've felt lost in life, And a bit miserable. I don't know what to do!?
Like I have an idea of what I want, But the problem is getting it.
The problem with many of us, Is we sit around and "think" About what we want and we don't take action until we have a concrete idea, And plan.
There are huge issues to this logic.
Many of us will never be "100% Sure" And how can you? There are so many factors that come into play.
That's why you need to have an "idea" and go into that direction.
I'm 24; I have my license but so little experience driving. I know the basics, But If I needed to drive a long distance, I would put others in danger with my lack of practice.
Even though I want to move out of country, It mostly stems from my desire to travel; Used cars often don't lose too much value over time.
Learning how to drive now, while responsibilities are limited, would be a good idea.
A car would allow me to travel around the U.S. For much cheaper than flying. I could even load up on groceries and sandwiches, Saving money on going out to eat. Heck I could even drive to Canada or Mexico.
My business as it grows, Is becoming less "hands on" for me.
Which means I have more free time. I could get a part time airline job for free flight benefits. Using the money from my business to fund the rest of my travel.
Where would I go?
I don't know!?
But as you can see I have a "rough" idea of what I want, So I put myself in a position so I can be sponataneous or decide where to go or what to do.
I'm taking action, Even though I'm not 100% set on what I want. I'm getting a used car, So I can get most of my money back hopefully if I'm planning on selling it down the road.
We Spend Our Childhood Dreaming
Remember when you were a kid at recess? Or when you were playing with your toys, Thinking of all the things you'd do one day as a "free" Adult? Why aren't you doing those things? If they are still things that you want, Why not?
When I was a kid, I thought about going to the ocean, And going there every day. I thought about being wealthy, and having enough money for my needs. I imagined myself spending lots of time outside in nature. I didn't want the same boring job that my parents had. They would spend all day at work! It didn't seem very fun.
I still want the same thing.
When you fail to be proactive with what you want, you are taking away from that little kid that dreamed of those things.
Look at it from that perspective. Do you really want that kid to not ever to get what they want?
That kid sat there dreaming about they want in life, And little do they know, They will never amount to anything. They'll never do any of those things they wanted to do.
Isn't that sad?
How would your kid self-react if they saw you now?
Just take a step in that direction
You don't have to know exactly what you want, Just take step that way. You can always change directions; you can always go down another path if you change your mind.
You are ALLOWED to change your mind if you don't like where things are going. Life is short, You need to take those steps. Don't just sit around and wait for a "Sign" To fall into your lap.