Hello fellow Hiveans, today I will writing about one of key aspects in our life, "Grief". Grief is more like a personal experience every one of us needs to ride for once in life. The situation of a person going through about something they lost. Mostly it's because of losing a loving person in their life, but it can be seen with other things like opportunities, changes or relationships. Grief is a mixture of emotions like sad, anger, confusion, guilt and sometimes even relief, but not at the same time. Navigating through these different and complex emotions one should approach oneself gentle, since the loss is personal and no one can better understand your situation rather than you.
Grief is not like a single moment to occur and dealing with it to make it gone. It will be appearing your whole life and revisiting those events are inevitable to us. These moments can be sometimes occur with less emotional status, but mostly those situations we tend to lose it all. Some would say these process occur at first denying the situation ever happened, then realising that the situation did happen makes us anger, then our mindset will go under depression but finally we would come to a conclusion of acceptance. These process is common for everyone but maybe in different orders.
Do not do anything to speedup the process of grief, because it creates a non-acceptance of the situation of can broke your healing process. When my dad died, I resort to the help of my friends and taking care of my family as my dad used to do. I didn't show any lost signs to my family members as they already in so much grief and if I started to join them there is no good coming out of it. Hence, I shared my grief with my friends and gradually I accepted it had happened. I had cried many times in front of my friends and they consoled me. Then I keep on moving forward with my new responsibilities and taking care of my mother and grandmother.
During those grief times, one should take care of their mindset and their body. Sometimes the relationship between the lost one and you would be so strong, it's like a feeling of living is not worth it without them. But, trust me that is not what the passed away person would have wanted. Rise back and be there for others who were also lost that person. Making simple routines of nourished food, exercise, meditation would do a great deal of good to your mind and will keep the balance by calming you down. There may be so many people who had died because of their loved one death. It doesn't serve any purpose of the lost one. Try to think of it as you are the one who need to take care of your family now and do it.
Grief is some what personal and only those who are our best friends can understand what we had lost and they can only make you to move on in your life. But, it has to come from you too, open up yourself about how you feel about the lost to your friends and express your concern. This way your friends will know how to cheer you up when you are feeling kind of grief and they would do anything for you to feel better. In the process of going through grief, support of friends and family means a lot and can take good care of you while you are in it.
The memories we bond with the lost person are the integral part of our life now, we may relieve those moments in our dreams and brain. We can't forget those moments and we just need to learn to live with them. Do something on the day of the that person gone. These type of memorials will put you with the lost person for brief moment like a connection, but without being trapped in the past. At last bringing a meaning to the pain we have went through for the lost person.
It's all about finding a way to carry the loss and move forward in your life, it's not about forgetting what happened or stopped feeling sad. Grief is a slow and steady moment where one will definitely go through atleast once in their life.