You ever felt stuck in a conversation?
Each sentence that the other person said had you brainstorming on what you were going to say next?
But as you brainstormed, something BAD happened!
You didn't know what you were gong to say next, so you froze.
If you are someone who overthinks, has social anxiety or low self confidence, you will find yourself relating to the scenario above.
And if you think about it, it is an awkward position to be in.
No one likes the situation where there is a dead silence & each party is scouring to think of the next point.
'Alright bro, so how do I handle this situation?'
Two ways:
Path 1. Say whatever comes to your mind.
Or
- Say nothing & give a micro acknowledgment.
Let's go thru both.
Path 1
The reason that you overthink every line is because you treat a conversation as a logical act.
And to be fair, that is common when you are meeting someone for the first time.
But you need to condition your mind to stop treating an emotional act like a logical one.
Which is why when you are stuck, you should practice your thinking on feet skills.
The best way to do that is by saying whatever.
Ask the first question that pops up in your mind.
Make the first observation that you notice.
Comment on something that happened with your day.
By doing this, you exercise your social reaction time.
A huge component in being socially dynamic.
'Well, what if I say something that makes the other person mad?'
Then allow them to exit from your life.
Remember, ALWAYS have an abundant mentality towards people.
There is no shortage of humans on this planet.
If someone wants to get butthurt by a comment that you made, then f*ck them & move on, simple.
But at least you exercised your social muscle & worked on creating a fluid conversation.
Path 2
Path 2 is when you don't contribute & let them keep contributing.
This happens when someone is done speaking & you gently nod your head.
This indicates to them that you are saying 'Go on, continue. I am still listening.'
Or you say a 'mhmm' in a very gentle manner (I can make a video about this on my YouTube).
But this shows them that you are all ears.
You'll be baffled by how many people continue when they get a micro acknowledgement from you.
Normally when you think they were done with their point, they weren't.
They just needed some encouragement from you to keep going.
The reason people hate this path is because it require sitting with in silence for a few.
But that's good!
Being comfortable in silence together is a sign that the social bond is strengthening.
Whichever path you choose, understand that it is effective.
Be able to read people with social experience & you will know which path to take.
The more you choose either path, the more confident & charismatic you will feel in social situations.
Whatever you do, don't be looking nervous & frantically overthinking what you are going to say next.
Either say anything or do a micro acknowledgement.
Easy peasy lemon squeezy.
These are the social frameworks that you need to learn in order to build your attractive personality.
The more magnetic you become, the more opportunities that you are able to open.
Life is a game of understanding people & then playing chess with them.
But you can't do that if you can't even hold a conversation.
It is time that you become a master with words.
One of the finest skills that will compound over time.
So invest in yourself today & Power Up
Till tomorrow.
Mr. Power Up ⚡