I personally have this love and craving for cultural weddings, not just for the ibibio tribe where i come from but for other tribes like yoruba, tiv, India, Hausa, efik(calabar), edo etc. There’s just something about a bride being adorned in her cultural attire that makes everything feel so real, beautiful and attractive, can't wait to be marry ni😀😀😜😜😜😜, I think I will be too beautiful on my traditional attire @evegrace, @udygold and @zeypearl what do you think?😋😋😋😁😂😂🤗🤗🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃.
Well today I have chosen to write about culture, since Yoruba, efik and Ibibio has already been written about.
Edo culture is one culture I admire so much, I can remember when I was teaching at a nursery school immediately I was done with my studies at the my state College of Education, the school actually had a cultural day and different tribes was written down in a paper and folded and then each teachers were asked to pick it up and luckily or unluckily for me I picked the Edo tribe, so I had to start researching on their food, how they dress, how the greet, how they speak etc. It was really fun after all, so writing about the traditional marriage in Edo will not really be that new or hard being that I have at least had a clue of their tribe while teaching.
Now lets begin, there is something spectacular about traditional marriages that endears me to it, its really a time we all get to see the
old customs and practices. So seeing a bride adorned in her own cultural attire makes everything feel so spectacular. Now the Edo traditional marriage isn't really an exception from the above statement. So one of the main themes or beauty so to say in a traditional Edo wedding has to be the infusion of coral beads. This beads are really something else, some heavy, some light, some just normal🤗🤗🤗. The bride is adorned with Ivie (coral beads) and crowned with a beaded headpiece (Okuku). To me this adornment if beads makes the bride kook like a kings wife, more so someone from a royal home so to say.
After a man meets his wife to be, an arrangement will be made on when to he will be visiting his in-laws and this will be done with his parents and other elderly relatives in his family.
During the first visit, every other underground protocol is duly observed in terms of preparations, like the brides family buying kola nuts, drinks, food etc. to entertain their in-laws because she(the bride) must have hinted her parents that her would(that's the groom) will be coming to see them today. Now when once everyone is seated, the bride's family then entertains their visitors with drinks and kola nuts while sitting opposite themselves.
After the kola nuts are broken and duly served and eaten, the groom's spokesman will stand up and reveal the purpose of their visit and make a proposal on behalf of their son to marry one of their daughters while he presents as gifts; drinks and kola nuts to the bride's family.
The bride's father or someone who is representing him will now call the lady(because she will be inside) and asked her if she knows the visitors and his family? Thereafter he will proceed by telling her the purpose of their coming and asks if she agrees to their proposal, if yes, that signifies the acceptance of the drinks presented but if No, that ends it there. But in most cases the answer is usually a big YES😂😂😂. Abi who no like better thing😊😊😊😁😁😁😁(Nigerian parlance).
So after the acceptance of the offer by the bride's family, a list would now be given to the groom's family and thereafter the bride's family will now present food and drinks to everyone.
- The traditional marriage proper;
The first step in the traditional ceremony is the bride price discussion which is a dramatic ceremonial process. Once the “negotiations” are done and everyone is satisfied with the agreed price to pay then boom the introduction proper begins with an immediate effect.
Oh the part i love so much or should i say my favorite part of the ceremony is when girls or ladies called fake brides will be brought out by the older women of the family and the groom is asked to come over and identify his beautiful bride😂😂😂😂, its funny right? Lol. Its really a fun process during which the groom is extorted for even more money for various “activities”. Seriously this is done in the Ibibio tribe too and I winder why it should be done, most times I pity the groom because if he wasn't with enough money in his pocket then its a big problem.
After much or should I say few amount of money is being extorted from the groom there and then will bride be brought out finally.
Oh! at this moment the groom feels elated, there this special excitement he feels deep down in his heart as he carefully identifies his bride. The bride is then presented to her new family, who then hand over their new wife to her husband. Wow! isn't this beautiful?
Oh I am loving this already.
Hope you love my piece and you are happy getting to know about otter culture, I too I am really happy getting to know about other tribes and the way the conduct their traditional marriage, I'd really love to say a big thank you for @starstrings01 for putting up this great contest I feel so much joy doing this with others.
Least I forget a big thank you to @udygold for the mention I really appreciate, heart you now and always💖💖💖💗💗💓💓💋💋💋💋💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕.
Again I invite @zellypearl to come do this with me, click here and participate.
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