Night Reading After Work
Good evening everyone!
I’m making up for not reading this morning by catching up tonight. So, here I am, continuing with my progress on "Merawat Luka Batin" by Dr. Jiemi Ardian, Sp.Kj.
Tonight, we're diving into the next topic: Parenting in the Family. This section discusses how parenting styles significantly impact a person's likelihood of experiencing depression.
One interesting study from 1958 by researcher Harlow explored the importance of attachment between baby monkeys and their caregivers. The results were fascinating, showing patterns that need to be recognized early to understand their impact better.
The book outlines four personality characteristics that can lead to depression and stress in daily life. I find these particularly relevant to our lives today:
Perfectionism: This involves demanding perfection from oneself and others. It's like a tyranny of the "should," where we create impossible standards. This can lead to exhaustion and push people away.
My Take: It's easy to fall into the trap of perfectionism, always striving for an unattainable ideal. This constant pressure can be overwhelming and isolating.
Dependency: This is an excessive reliance on others to feel valuable, emotionally protected, and motivated. Such dependence can make us unprepared for criticism and rejection, leaving us very sensitive and in need of others when stressed.
My Take: While it's natural to seek support, over-dependence can hinder our ability to handle life's challenges independently.
Conformity: This means using others' expectations and words as a benchmark and striving hard to meet their demands. Fear of disappointing others and facing rejection can lead to a loss of autonomy and personal freedom.
My Take: Constantly trying to meet others' expectations can make us lose sight of our own needs and desires, causing stress and dissatisfaction.
Rigidity: This involves having very rigid values and an inability to accept different viewpoints. When someone expresses a differing opinion, it makes us uncomfortable and threatened. Despite recognizing our inflexibility, we do nothing about it, making intimacy and controlling relationships difficult.
My Take: Being rigid in our views can limit our growth and strain relationships. Flexibility and openness to new ideas are essential for personal and relational development.
Tonight, I learned a lot, especially about understanding different personality traits. Recognizing these can help us manage our mental health better.
So far, that's my reading progress for tonight. I hope it gives you some new insights too. See you in the next part! If you have any recommendations for books, please leave a comment below.