Beyond the Oceans of Virginity... Aspire to acquire the desire of your messiah.
Yes, he was actually a good man, and there was a willingness to help her attain the best height in life. But the seeming challenge was that he actually wanted to have carnal knowledge of her before going further with her in marital conduct.
Of which she clearly and bluntly put a resistance to that with a NO until she's married. At first, this hit him so hard that he found it difficult to understand her own definition of waiting, the reason being that everything about her wasn't showing the waiting zeal.
Because she always visited him wearing skimpy dresses, he thought all of this was a green light thrown at him. Then he decided to make advance sexually, but surprisingly he was turned off.
While this particular act kept hurting him, he thought he had lost, but then he decided to keep it cool. He switched his focus from sexual engagement to helping her become the best since he intended to marry her.
Surprisingly, he noticed she was intelligently bankrupt. Academic standard was on a Zero level, and the zeal to advance in studies wasn't there.
He tries to make her see reasons to advance in all ramifications, but all his efforts prove abortive, as her mindset is about getting married to a prominent Man, making it sound like the end of struggling to her.
She thought he wouldn't leave her because they didn't communicate sexually. But eventually, he called it off, serving her breakfast at noon because he couldn't put up with her sluggishness towards growth.
Her emphasis here was that he left her because she said no to sexual engagement, but in reality, he left her because she had nothing else to offer aside from herself, forgetting that wasn't the only trademark for keeping a real man.
Yes, it's gone beyond that. A real man will definitely respect your wishes for no sexual engagement till marriage, but he may not tolerate your unteachable heart ❤️ and lazy life. This is applied to both genders.
Your chastity may indeed attract him, but character plays a keeping role along with divine wisdom. I say yes to the life of purity but get it right with characters. Godliness means more than sexual purity, improvement in knowledge, be updated.
It will require only the wedding night to give away your well-kept virginity, but it may take the rest of your days, weeks, months, and years of the marriage to give in your virtues.
Draw inspirations and motivation from the teaching of the biblical ten (10) virgins five (5) were considered foolish, and the other five (5) were Wise.
What actually differentiates them goes beyond just being a virgin.
While keeping yourself. Enrich and empower your mind, aspire to be more in a godly way.
