It's love month and I can say I can feel the love in the air, likewise on social media, I've been seeing different posts on Valentine's. I guess lovers are preparing to have a great day tomorrow, well it's not for lovers alone, it's a day to celebrate love and everyone that had shown love to you irrespective of the relationship you shared with them. These days it is so difficult to find people who love one genuinely, people who are ready to stay by your side no matter what the case may be. Someone is always ready to hear you out and always create a time for you out of their busy schedule. These are the set of people who prioritize you and make your happiness their concern.
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In my journey in life, I've met people who have contributed positively to my life, people who have shown me love beyond my imagination. People I wished I had met earlier in my life but I guess fate has its way of doing things and at the right time, it shall speak. Sometimes I wonder why sweet love turns sour, reasons why lovers can't keep up with the love they begin with. Till now, I haven't gotten answers to why love suddenly turns sour and one would be left with only the sweet memories it left behind.
Can't one just have a beautiful lover who means everything and enjoy a peaceful relationship? Well, I guess a lot of factors contributed to why some love doesn't last. Before love can work out well, both parties must be ready to make lots of sacrifices and in a situation where one doesn't want to make those sacrifices, the relationship crumbles and that would be the end of the sweet love they began with.
As a young lady, all I wanted was to be loved, I guess everyone wants that, it can't possibly be only me. After a heartbreak, I decided not to give love another chance because I didn't expect what was dished out to me, it hurt so bad that I wanted to take revenge and get back at him but can I do that? No, I couldn't because of the sweet memories I was left with, I remembered the beautiful beginning when everything was going well and smooth. Until he suddenly changed and things began going weird. In the end, I couldn't salvage the relationship even when I desperately wanted to because of love.
The relationship was as sweet as you can imagine at the beginning and it seemed like an angel had descended from heaven and finally located me. I was as happy as anything but I was fucked up and I decided to lock up until I met a friend who was more than a friend. Our meeting was quite unusual as I wasn't expecting anything good because of experience but he proved me wrong. We started as friends and even though as a friend, he made sacrifices that I find questionable. His kindness was top-notch and I do wonder how someone can be doing so much for another person you barely know.
One day I had to question him, and then he shared his experiences with me and taught me a great lesson. "Is there something you want?", I asked him one afternoon during our discussion. He was a bit shocked but I pretended not to notice, he smiled and asked "Is there something wrong?". I nodded to reply to him that nothing was wrong, "Not really, I was just wondering why you are doing so much for a lady who can disappear at any time", I said. "I know you as a lady can disappear at any time, I get your point, but you are my friend right?", he asked. I nodded in agreement then he replied, "As your friend shouldn't I be there for you when you need me?".
I sighed and said, "You should but don't you think you are doing too much?". "Well to me, I'm just doing what is expected of me as a good friend, whatever you decide is what you feel is right while I am also doing what I feel was right for our friendship", he said. I was trying to picture myself in his position and asking myself, "can I do what he is doing", this question is still yet unanswered. "I have been hurt countless times but that doesn't change who I am, I can't because of one bad eg, throw out the remaining good ones, I hope you understand now", he said to me after noticing I was silent just admiring the wonder in human form sitting in front of me.
As a lady when a man showers you with care and attention and makes unexpected sacrifices that you haven't experienced before, it sure will sweep any lady off her feet, well I was swept off my feet. I learned from him that being hurt once by someone shouldn't change you from who you are. At the right time, your good work and kind heart will yield good results. He kept the good memories in me and made me believe that love is real with the right person. He is someone I cherished a lot and no one knows what the future holds but he is the best part of my life.
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