RE: SPOKEN WORDS CAN NOT BE RETRIEVED!!!

I am sorry for your friend. Losing the trust of one's husband because of one's words can be tough. You are right we must consider our words before speaking. In our current environment we are being told to be assertive and speak up but it but still be with a lot of tact. It is not alway easy as we are human - we just need to practice.
Like you said - what impact and effect do we want to leave someone with - negative or positive - we should consider that.