I agree with you that every human being is a leader, it's not a choice. You don't necessarily have to lead a community. Whatever you do, your neighbor can follow your example, your child can follow your examples. Somebody will follow your lead. I'm translating these sentences right now, I hope it translates well lol.
I think the people around you say who you are. There is a saying in Turkish. "Tell me your friend and I will tell you who you are." So everyone should choose the people around them carefully.