Castigar a un niño con autismo // Punishing a child with autism
Castigar a un niño con autismo
Digo, teléfono en celular que tiene en uso, porque César aun no tiene teléfono propio y de tenerlo, sus palabras de rebeldía fuesen “Ese es mi teléfono y yo puedo hacer lo que quiera con él”, sin filtro y bien grosero.
Tiene días con malas actitudes por el cambio de rutina que ha venido teniendo, se le cambió parte de sus habitos alimenticios y se le ha puesto más disciplina en su vida diaria, dado que yo como su mamá había descuidado un poco los deberes de César, para darle prioridades a otras actividades. No me di cuenta del error y ahora retomamos lo que se venia trabajando desde el año pasado con el niño.
Recuerdo que comenté en post anteriores que yo dejé de tener trabajos con horarios de oficina para poder darle atención a mi hijo ya que la cuarentena hizo que se atrasara en su autismo, hecho un paso atrás. Les explico, cuando un niño (en este caso un niño autista, así sea 1er grado o avanzado) viene de tener actividades educativas por las 8 horas del día, cuando lo tienes que encerrar por temas de cuarentena, no se le continúan sus actividades en casa, sino que se deja sin tener responsabilidades, solo dormir, ver televisión, comer, jugar, tienen de hacer un retraso de todo lo que se ha venido trabajando para mejorar sus actitudes y aprendizajes.
En el caso de César, se pone ansioso, comienza a responder mal y toma, hace y deshace cosas sin permiso, como comerse todo lo que está en la nevera, lo del diario y lo de trabajar, en mi nevera normalmente hay chocolate con el cual trabajo, y si él lo descubre, se lo come sin pensarlo. Es algo que está mal, ya que es lo que nos ayuda a sobrevivir y aparte que en su alimentación no está bien.
Cuando le cambias las actividades también hay un choque de actitudes que no son permitidas en casa, se ha portado mal en el colegio y en karate, por no decir todas las veces que me responde groseramente, apenas tiene 7 años, es el momento de educar. No voy a decir que de vez en cuando le sale una nalgada, pero me sirve más cuando le quito algún artefacto que le guste en ese momento, en ocasiones es el teléfono, Wii, televisión (canales infantiles), muchas veces también son premios o meriendas que se gane por buen comportamiento.
Gracias a ese castigo, el niño mejora su actitud y comportamiento un 90% desde el momento que se le dice que está castigado, por ahora ha mejorado en el colegio y casa, aun está en período de prueba porque no han pasado los días de castigo, pero si sigue con actitudes negativas, toca llevarlo a su psicóloga que tiene el control para que me guie y aconseje qué tipo de terapias debe recibir para que no se atrase con su vida y pueda ser un hombre de provecho.
El profesor de karate, que tiene experiencia trabajando con niños y adolescentes con condiciones especiales, me ha comentado que lo mejor es llevarlo otra vez a la consulta con su psicóloga para que ésta lo evalúe mejor, pero yo le dije que esperaramos para ver cómo evoluciona estos días con el castigo.
De igual manera, ella está al tanto y seguramente lo va a querer atender, porque ella es la más idónea para manejar el caso de César y lo guie a salir de ese episodio que tiene en este momento el niño.
La semana que viene les contaré cómo mejoró y las medidas de atención que tuve que implementar.
Gracias por leer.
Punishing a child with autism
How is a child with autism punished? Taking away things that he likes, for example, in the case of César, his punishment was not to watch YouTube videos, he cannot touch the cell phone he has in use.
I say, cell phone that he has in use, because César still does not have his own phone and if he did, his words of rebellion would be "That's my phone and I can do whatever I want with it", without filter and very rude.
He has days with bad attitudes due to the change in routine that he has been having, part of his eating habits have been changed and more discipline has been put in his daily life, since I, as his mother, had neglected Cesar's duties a little, to prioritize other activities. I did not realize the mistake and now we return to what we had been working on since last year with the child.
I remember that I commented in previous posts that I stopped having jobs with office hours to be able to pay attention to my son since the quarantine caused him to fall behind in his autism, taking a step back. I explain to you, when a child (in this case an autistic child, whether it is 1st grade or advanced) comes from having educational activities for 8 hours a day, when you have to lock him up for quarantine issues, his activities are not continued in home, but they are left without having responsibilities, only sleeping, watching television, eating, playing, they have to delay everything that has been worked on to improve their attitudes and learning.
In César's case, he becomes anxious, he begins to react badly and takes, does and undoes things without permission, like eating everything that is in the fridge, the newspaper and the work stuff, in my fridge there is usually chocolate with it which job, and if he finds out, he eats it without thinking. It is something that is wrong, since it is what helps us to survive and apart from that in feeding him it is not right.
When you change his activities there is also a clash of attitudes that are not allowed at home, he has misbehaved at school and in karate, not to mention all the times he responds rudely to me, he is barely 7 years old, it is time to educate . I'm not going to say that from time to time he gets a spanking, but it helps me more when I take away some device that he likes at that moment, sometimes it's the telephone, Wii, television (children's channels), many times they are also prizes or Snacks earned for good behavior.
Thanks to this punishment, the child improves his attitude and behavior by 90% from the moment he is told that he is punished, for now he has improved at school and at home, he is still on probation because the days of punishment have not passed , but if he continues with negative attitudes, it's time to take him to his psychologist who has control so that she can guide me and advise what kind of therapies he should receive so that he doesn't fall behind with his life and can be a useful man.
The karate teacher, who has experience working with children and adolescents with special conditions, has told me that it is best to take him back to see his psychologist so that she can evaluate him better, but I told him that we would wait to see how he evolves. these days with punishment.
In the same way, she is aware and will surely want to attend to him, because she is the most suitable to handle César's case and guide him out of that episode that the boy is having at the moment.
Next week I will tell you how he improved and the care measures I had to implement.
Thank you for reading.
Soy Ana Fuentes💜💜
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