You can not enjoy your happiness completely alone which is loneliness in other words, but still, we are so selfish in this world and truely speaking this sense of selfishness is the only hindrance that will never make us happy. There is no parameter to measure happiness even if we can't express our feelings of happiness except for some of the four expressions of happiness on our face like smiling, hugging; some fun and activities to enjoy, like doing parties, dancing or singing, participating in some amusement activities, meeting with our friends and families and some other related activities as expressing our happiness to share with everyone. So, how do we become happy then, and how we can define happiness? Here, I am going to light up my own opinion regarding being happy and our continuous fight to be a happy person.
We all want to be happy but very few of us think about it that what does it mean by happiness for me. I am talking about myself because happiness varies from person to person according to their choice of living and ways of thought. For example, think about the war in Ukraine and Russia and the happiness of those shoulders: those shoulders find their happiness in killing their opponents! I am sorry for bringing such extreme examples but I want to let you feel what I mean here.
So, here comes the variation in the feeling, now let's talk about some good examples, you can find some people working for charity for their whole life like 'Mother Teressa' who found here happiness in serving the poor and people in the streets. And also there are people who find happiness in drug addictions, that silently kill that person! Seems very abnormal but you can find such things everywhere, even when we are very depressed, we go to bars to drink to forget our pains, when we get some achievements, and to celebrate our happiness we also go to bars for drinking! What does it mean? The same activity now becomes the source of the good and bad expressions.
Okay, I am not going to make it more complex, I am going to my point about selfishness that is not a good way to be happy but it destroys our inner peace. I think sharing happiness with others makes it more enjoyable and increases the feeling of satisfaction level. Similarly, the sharing of sorrows with others decreases the intensity of our pains. Both are against the selfishness behavior in my sense. Let's dive deeper into my point.
We all are a part of nature, and most of us have the ability to perceive ourselves as distinct entities from the rest. We can identify ourselves as "I" which is the starting of our selfishness. Others may seem to us as of no importance. When we start believing this, we get obsessed with this "I" and want to make the world fit as our mental images like what we want and only about ourselves where we are so selfish to make a space for others. But we forget that we can't live without others' help or accompany us, so if other people are not happy or supporting us in a proper way, we can not be happy.
Let's suppose that you have gained a massive achievement but you have no friends or family members with you, how you enjoy the moment? And if you have someone but that person is also suffering from a problem how you can be such an inhuman to celebrate that time? And in very extreme cases, if you don't have a service provider like delivering good food, delivering your favorite drinks, the people who make the surroundings beautiful, how you can celebrate your happiness?
So, our happiness is always connected to others, you can not think about any celebration without your family members or your friends. But selfishness always makes you go forward from your friends and family as you are not comfortable with the cooperation ideology. And consequently, you will be a successful but lonely person and that is not a happy life at all. May be you will have every assets but you can not find true happiness. Always the worldly things will make you run behind them but at the end of the day you are completely alone!
The selfishness will concentrate everything inside you will make you tensed to lose in the competition of the world and your sleep will be gone to run after the untouched happiness. Selfishness will never let you be a contained person with satisfaction with what you have but let you think about what you don't have. But satisfaction is the true sense of happiness, you don't need too much to be satisfied but you have to be free from selfishness.
Besides, selfishness brings other related feelings of rude to the poor seeking help, charity work, and social-welfare activities which leads the whole society in to a backward direction from many aspects. But helping others gives me true happiness and satisfaction that I can't explain, just try to sacrifice a little for others then you can feel how it can heal your heart. But it is also important to balance your life with sacrifice and your own interest, I have seen many people cheat or lost many things only for being so generous and believing others so easily. So, life must be in a balanced of sacrifice and kicking out selfishness as far as possible to be a truely happy person.
I hope you like my post on my thoughts on fighting for happiness against selfishness. If you have any queries, let me know in the comments, and I will try my best to answer them. Thanks a lot for your time and attention. I will catch up with you at the next one.
Wish you a great day!
