Hello friends. Wishing everyone here a fruitful week ahead as we keep the energy going. And as the month of September comes to an end today with this crucial topic from our beloved community #hivelearners .
This very question is so touching especially to parents who puts so much efforts towards the up bringing of their children and things still go wrong most times. Who do we blame.?
As a parent who has gone through child rearing and children up bringing , my opinion and views are on both parents and their wards considering some situations in parenting which is why the center sometimes can not hold because parents are supposed to be examples for their children.
# WHAT PARENTS OWES
Portray Of Character:
Training and bringing up children in a home does not only involve giving them all they require, like putting food 🥘 on the table for them, sending them to school and clothing them , but to make them emulate parents good behaviors since parents are their first contacts as growing up children. This in other words means we as parents should be very transparent with our children , making them know the right and the wrong, being truthful with people in front of them and teaching them what respect is all about. My mother once told me that the mother hen 🐓teaches her chicks 🐥 how to source for food by using their chicken feet to scatter the ground. When we behave well as parents, our children will definitely follow our footsteps. And when its the opposite, the children will follow the bad behaviors of their parents which is the beginning of a child taking wrong steps and making bad decisions.
Strictness:
This is one good factor that helps parents while bringing up the children because parents are not supposed to allow their children do everything they want to especially when they are still under age. This has nothing to do with loving a child, because love ❤️ is what every parent gives to their children, which establishes that confidence bond . Being strict with children is one thing that helps parents to create boundaries of what the children are allowed to do and things that they must not do. This strictness most times makes the children stay away from some behaviors they know will cause problems , and this automatically impact so much in them as they grow up following rules and guidelines, developing self respect for themselves and for their parents .
When parents allow and over protect their children, they are making a very big mistake because it makes them not to stand up for themselves, not knowing how to face challenges which definitely will affect their future . And when we don’t restrict and create boundaries, our children will override us, doing things that will jeopardize their future.
Peer Group Pressure
Parents try all they could to make sure their children are well brought up and present good behaviors at all time, but as this kids enters adulthood things begins to change if they are not strong and have the courage to face the peer group. This time in particular is when most children start misbehaving. Its the duty of the parents to constantly watch the behavioral changes in their children to know when things start to go out of place because the people they interacts with at this stage can influence them . This period is when parents are supposed to ask questions and also pay more attention .
Although if we have however lay good foundations from on set when they are smaller, letting them know what they will encounter while growing older, they will have it in mind getting prepared on how to deal with things because peer group pressures are terrible times many faces knowing not what to do.
In conclusion, parents most times puts all the efforts in their children to properly bring them up, but it appears too that some children are born to be the opposite of their parents. I have seen so many parents who kept enough effort but their children turned out wayward. I believe this is choice children makes once they are in adulthood. I don’t think parents are to be blamed in situations like this after putting their best in up bringing of their children.
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