Like I had shared in a comment section of a friend's entry I read, and I'll add here again... Parents were humans first before they gave birth to children and became responsible for every action they take until they are wise enough to take decisions for themselves. I read somewhere that even after a kid becomes adult, the parents still has responsibilities to take care of regarding them.
So we could say, Parents are always there whether you're little or older so long they are alive and real parents of yours. And that makes their guidance from when we were little till when are are old, are very important to us.
For me, I got most of the guidance I needed to grow into who I am today from my dad, as I wasn't opportune to grow with both parents which is fine as everything happens for a reason. My dad isn't the disciplinary kind like I've heard some fathers are from my mates growing up but I do know my dad doesn't see wrong keeps shut about it.
He is a very jovial man but would never miss a chance to give guides, punish and correct when the opportunity comes. That has helped me understand to an extent whenever I am being guided by him to know that whatever I am doing is the right thing or the wrong one.
Another thing that helped me believe my dad is many more times right than being wrong is his ability to appreciate his children whenever they do well and scold us when we are missing the line. With that said, I'll share an instance when dad was right and another when he was wrong. The two are actually kinda connected and taught me a good lesson I'm using today in my adult life.
His random decisions about my social life was right for me.
I think this had a lot to do with the fact that he was the only parent guiding his children and so he had to let other guidance closest and around to assist him when he is busy with work. That made us socialize very well with kids of our age, learn stuffs we wouldn't have if he had restricted us to the four walls of our houses when he isn't around.
That decision of his helped us to adapt easily to new environments, situations and even harsh attitudes from people who care less. It made us strong or maybe I should say, tough as kids and now, as adults.
I'm a bit ashamed to say now that I wasn't really appreciative of this decision of my dad when I was little as I felt he was leaving his responsibilities to others but in the actual sense, he was only being the best he can be for his children alongside making sure we had all we needed to grow well enough. So that decision was right to me after all.
Limiting my affairs with the male genders
I could give a count of the guys I've encountered growing up as a kid to teenagers, thanks to my dad. He was literally everywhere I'm standing next to a guy π I still don't know how that happens. Even when I could meet any guy in his absence or when he leaves us with other guidance, he still acts so defensive and over protective when he sees the male figure near his daughters.
It would be a little surprising to know that he still does that now but not as bad as it was back then. I feel this is wrong as it made it difficult for guys to get close and it wasn't like I have too many female friends to make up for it.
Whether the guys have bad or good intentions, dad didn't care to know. He just doesn't want to hear that his daughters go near a guy and would be so happy when he sees that we are hanging out with our fellow girls. I'm still waiting for when he comes asking me if any suitors have showed interest to marry me so I can start telling him how many he has scared away with his attitude back then lol.
Of course, to a good extent, this guidance of his helped me to value myself more and be more careful around the opposite gender but I know and can't share much here the negatives of this in my life now. In any case, I'll say my dad did all he did for my best and I appreciate him for that.
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