Ingratitude is a lack of appreciation or thankfulness, especially when someone has been given something or shown kindness. It can be a trait of someone who is selfish, self-centred, or unkind. Ingratitude can make others feel unvalued and disrespected and can lead to negative feelings such as anger, frustration, and resentment.There are many different forms of ingratitude, from not saying thank you to more extreme forms such as taking credit for someone else's work. Ultimately, ingratitude is not a desirable quality in anyone and can damage relationships and lead to negative outcomes.
There are a lot of people in the world who are ungrateful when people help them or do something that deserves their gratitude. I could relate to this topic very well, and that's why I decided to write about it.
There are times as humans that we will help people out, not because we have much or give them our time, but because we want to help, even when the time is not enough for us, and the best thing we desire back from that very person is that he or she should show gratitude, which means letting the helper know you appreciate everything they have done for you and you didn't take it for granted.
Doing this will light up the person's mood and make them want to do more for that very person or anyone else that may need that same help another time. But instead of showing gratitude, they went all the way to behaving and reacting like what you did for them was not a big deal. Some will even go to the extent of saying that if you do not help, another person will, and God just sent you to help. I don't know why it's so hard for people to show gratitude to their helpers. Even though it is my parents right to take care of me as their child, I always show them gratitude whenever they help me out with anything by saying "thank you”, because doing that definitely makes them happy to do more.
Some months back. I can't remember the exact time it happened. All I know is that it was when I was in the 300 level at the university. A girl I knew in school contacted me for help, and she was pleading and crying when asking.
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I was emotionally touched and couldn't do anything else but ask her what was wrong with her. Then she told me she needed some money to complete her school fees, and if she didn't get the money, she would have to repeat the level.
Seeing that I have some money that I want to use to get foodstuffs by the end of that month and I don't need them urgently, I decide to give it to her because my mind is not settled when she says she will repeat the level if she doesn't get to pay.
The funniest and most annoying part was that after this girl got this money, she didn't call me anymore. I have to recharge my phone and call her multiple times, asking when I will get my money back. There are days she doesn't even pick up my call, and when she does, she speaks rudely, telling me to calm down and that she does not have it and can't steal the money.
Her actions show she downplays the sacrifice I made for her because her attitude doesn't show she wants to pay the money back, and all it shows is that she doesn't want to pay back.
This experience makes me vow that I will never borrow anybody's money, except if it's money that I have no intention of collecting back. I left the money to her as she refused to pay, and I let her be. We are no longer close because her action annoys me even till now. Moreover, what will I be doing with a person who can't appreciate help? So the best thing I can do is just take my eyes off the money that she owe me.
Well, I can never experience something like that again.
Thank you for reading.