Going away? Shutting all the sounds out? I have thought about all these things a lot of times and trust me it wasn’t easy for me to come out of it but then I did, so you are not alone at all. You know, life can be really hard on us sometimes that we just want to be alone and stay in our space. Most times, these things just happen to us and the easiest way we break out of it is through the bond and connections we have with people. If we are not careful, we might just end up becoming either depressed or becoming a sadists.
The feeling of wanting to be alone is something that builds over time and the more we give thoughts to it the more we draw towards closing up. For me, I already know that I’m someone that sometimes wants to be alone so what I do is, I prepare myself for that phase so I can easily get over it as soon as possible. The major thing I do is always trying to be myself no matter how hard it is sometimes. I do this because I believe that this will help people understand when something is wrong with you and know how best they can help. Because trust me, at a time like that, it’s only easier to heal faster if you have people around.
Another thing I do is find a welcoming space (community) to be a part of. To some this could be school, online groups, Church groups and others. Just identify yourself with people of like minds and get involved in am whatever activities they do. Sometimes I just wonder how depressed I would have been if I don’t have all of these things in place. Engaging in these groups can help keep our minds away from the so many difficulties and challenges we might be going through. We also get to create some special bonds with some persons in these groups that easily notice when something is wrong with us and that will help us most times overcome that phase.
In as much as happiness is a choice, there are still sometimes when we just need another hands to pull us up and if we don’t have those hands around to help, we might just drown in our own loneliness and that is why it is necessary to build a relationship with people. The easiest way out of the feeling of wanting to be alone is not being alone. As long as there are people around us, it becomes harder for us to accommodate such thoughts for a long time.
Note, there is a difference between wanting your space but when it’s getting out of hand it only means that you just want to always be alone and that is something that might have a negative impact on us in a long run. So in all you do, connect with people, don’t derive joy in always saying you love being alone. Even if you do, there are some people that need you to help them too so also try to think of others too.
I have made some decisions that I only ended up finding out how selfish I was because all I thought about was what I wanted and nothing else. Do care for yourself but then if you being alone is the only way you can care for yourself, then I’d advise you have a rethink. Even if you don’t need people, just know that they do need you and trying to be there for them will help you also overcome your own phase of wanting to be alone.
This is my thoughts on the Hivelearners topic on ”BATTLING FOR HAPPINESS”. They are all based on my opinion which may either resonate well with you or not. So feel free to share your thoughts with me.