Humans are classified as social animals, among every other living beings on earth, it is a natural action for humans to communicate with each other in other to formulate connection among each other. in the process, relationships are formed either friendship or romantic relationship. Despite the necessity of socialisation in the lives of humans, it has never been my strong hold. I form different kind of relationship depending on the situation I'm in and once that is over I move on to the next stage without forming any tangible attachment.
It is not as if I don't care about the feelings of others or I'm not capable of showing affection, it is just that making friends is easier for me compared to keeping them. for someone with a complex personality such as mine, associating with people is not easy though it comes naturally due to my friendly nature. I have always lived the life of a bear in most part of my life, I have never been a fan of packs.
Right from my primary school days, I developed the habit of depending on my self for any form of affection or attention, you can say I'm not a fan of relationships. though in some ways most people tends to misunderstand my rigid personality for pride but it wasn't so. I just loved and prefer my own company. most children have the habit of forming groups, some kind of peer groups relationship but I never fit in, for some reason I was just different.
Most children tends to have a general habit but for me it wasn't so, I just find most of their attitude ridiculous, I guess I out grew my age 😂. my level of thinking was above my age, when other children prefer to play with toys, sands and other childish stuff, I prefer to draw, write funny fictional stories and swim. I enjoyed swimming a lot as a kid, then we had a swimming pool at our family house at ketu.
As time goes by I realise I have a distinctive personality compared to others, instead of creating a circle of friends, I prefer to just be on my own and do things my own way but for someone who enjoys his own company my inability to feign ignorance to those in need and also go extra miles to assist others whenever I can has always go contrary to my introverted personality. So instead of just keeping friends I try as much as possible to surround myself with like minded individuals, as long as you are the free minded type, selfless, absent of religious & gender bias and with a working brain, obviously you are my kind of person.
One thing that differentiates my kind of circle of friends from most is that, it is not a question of who I need, it is more about who is in need of me. being in the midst of a group of people I could offer my support freely which could be anything and also be free to be who I'm am. for example, during my days in school we find ourselves doing all kind of practicals and project. there are always two requirements for the practicals which involves creating a group and selecting a group leader. I have always been privilege to be a group leader for almost all practicals and project I partake in for different reasons.
Apart from having a group of my own, there are times when I still have a lot of people wanting to join my group but since it is full, I go all the way to create different groups for others. at the long run I find myself leading more than 2 to 5 groups and sometimes I find myself being overwhelmed by this responsibility, a duty I willingly took upon myself. My primary aim has always been to make sure everyone pass the course with no one left behind, this what my cycle of people or friends is made of.
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This write-up was inspired by weekly featured content titled "Making new friends" in hive learners community.
