The fact that we are in a society where people create rules and regulations for love and marriage. They say “A woman isn’t supposed to marry someone she is older than” Most times I wonder where those rules are written. How did they come up with such a mentality? So many ideas that tend to determine marriage, relationships, and sometimes friendships.
Sometimes when a Rich girl is getting married to a poor boy you will hear the majority say that the boy is just after the woman’s wealth and he has little or no shame in allowing a woman who is wealthier to be his wife, but then it is a normal thing for a rich man to marry a poor girl. She has bagged gold most people would say. Sometimes we make people feel like most situations are taboos, for instance in a relationship a girl shouldn’t be older than a guy.
When it comes to love, Age is just a number. Most times you would say “There is no way I would want to be with someone way older than I am” but then you could be caught up in a situation where your heart is doing otherwise. These days age is no barrier for most people. Young girls get married to older men of their own will. Older girls get married to younger boys and they are living happily together. People have their choices and I think society should stop making them look weird.
A few years ago, my aunt visited and I was with her and my mom while they discussed lots of things. That was when the discussion of her son’s relationship came up. She was so angry that he was in a relationship with a girl who was older than him. The funny thing is she is just older than him at least 2 years and she doesn’t even look older physically. So if you weren’t told you wouldn’t know.
She kept saying that she would not let her son get married to the girl because she doubted that the lady would ever respect her son or maybe after marriage the lady would be controlling since she was older. My mom had to tell her that, she couldn’t decide for her son and besides age is just a number. Everyone has a preference and people should stop making other people’s choices look like they are making a big mistake.
Well, it happens that my cousin finally got married to this lady who's older than he is and they have been living happily, they even relocated out of the country together and they are achieving their dreams together. A few times I have spoken to my cousin in regards to this topic of age, he told me that his mom was scared she wouldn’t respect him but he has been in a relationship with girls younger than he is and there was no atom of respect from them.
I think everyone has a preference and sometimes your preference might even change when love happens. But to me, I am of the mentality that age is just a number, as far as there is love, respect, and commitment then age shouldn’t be a limitation.
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