"Conflict is a signal that there is a problem that must be solved together."
Hi Hivers...
You should talk. Why let someone continue to bully you?”
"What you say is true. However, I'm too lazy to conflict with him."
It cannot be denied that there are many people who choose to avoid conflict in an effort to achieve order and happiness. Life without conflict looks beautiful, doesn't it? Usually we will hope for a life that is free from the tension of conflict, when problem after problem comes without giving a break.
A life of constant conflict will be very tiring. For example, in a romantic relationship. There are couples who never fail to fight every day. It was as if there was something that could spark a fight between them. So when they see a couple who never fight, it makes them long for a relationship like that.
"If it wasn't always so noisy, maybe our life would be very happy."
In fact, life is only a matter of perception. We cannot really know the truth in someone's heart. Like when we think a relationship without conflict is beautiful, but for those who live it, it could be the opposite.
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"We never fight. However, there is always a never-ending war inside me."
Having no arguments doesn't mean being free from problems. A person may avoid conflict by constantly giving in, agreeing with their partner's opinions, giving everything they have, being willing to be cursed at, put down, etc. They are willing to sacrifice their inner voice so that no conflict occurs. So can such a relationship be happy?
Conflict is not always bad. Ancient people in my village said that conflict is the spice in a relationship. Like sparks of fire that will continue to ignite the passionate love between the two. Please note that the conflict that occurs does not exceed reasonable limits.
"If it is still within reasonable limits, conflict can actually revive a person's democratic spirit."
In a relationship, for example, someone who has the courage to face conflict will dare to speak his mind. By daring to conflict, we will learn to accept joint decisions. Doesn't that seem healthier for the soul, than pretending to be happy by maintaining a relationship without conflict?
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