Queen of Shame and Blame

Throughout your life
you played a game,
you mastered it so well,
that from young days to
your wedding day, no one
has ever won against you.

Family, friends, brothers,
bosses, neighbours and lovers,
you had them all kneel by
pointing out your finger.

You poured out lies
and crucified whoever dared
to disagree and disobey
your will. You made them pay.

You pointed left and pointed right,
you've done it up and down and
back again - accusing them of crime,
jealousy, theft - always ready to fight.

Not ever did it occur to you,
they were victims, just like you,
the main culprit laid within;
they were lost souls searching to
improve their lives, their groove.

That index finger you used and abused
has lost its glory and its magic touch,
no longer helps you get your will done;
you reign has reached its end, my friend.

All those pointing fingers,
sins you washed your hands off,
betrayals and crimes you did,
came back to haunt you, my dear
queen of shame and blame.

Fed up to be at your mercy and
sick of the interchangeable moods,
they've turned against you; now
they're pointing back at you.

For once you`ll have to admit
that you were wrong!
It takes courage to say these three words,
it takes guts to change, I know.

"That used to be me!"

Change is something we fear. We are scared to recognize our faults and show others that we are vulnerable, that we make mistakes. Showing our flaws is a big no-no in a culture of shame and blame that perpetuates abuse and retribution.

This stigma is dangerous and the cycle needs to be broken. We need to adopt a different approach and create a blame-free environment.

Psychological projection is a way to cope with unwanted feelings and emotions. It is a defense mechanism that we employ whenever we are faced with undesirable outcomes.

Most people can`t realise that they have succombed to this Freudian projection until it is too late.

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Here are some of the poems I previously published here on Hive and on Steemit:
COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS
LAST WISH
PREDICTION
DRAWN TO BLACK
BRUISES
RED CARDINAL
INCOGNITO LIFE
CROWN OF QUILLS
STOLEN LIVES
THE KITE RUNNER
THE MOUNTAINS
BALAD
SHOOTING STARS
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
ALL BOUT LOVE
A TALE OF A MINNOW AND A WHALE
LONG WAY DOWN 1
LONG WAY DOWN 2
SPIDER QUEEN
MINA'S EULOGY
THE CIRCLE OF LIFE
YOU KNOW IT ALL
CONFESSION OF A HUSBAND
BROKEN DREAM
THE RETURN OF A HERX
CLOSE THE DOORS
IT IS LOVE
BROKEN SOUL
FREEDOM
SPEECHLESS
CHECKOUT POINT
TEENAGE YEARS
PINK
PAIN
DARE
LOST

Lavi Picu is the author of three soulful poetry collections: Whiteless Thoughts, Burden of love and Tales of a moody heart. She is a Canadian writer, majored in Linguistics, with a background in translations and writing. She’s also a ghost writer, a blogger with a focus on arts and health, a Lyme disease advocate, a mother and a self-taught artist.