Greetings!
“Wherever you go, wherever you be, do not say YES, when you mean to say NO.”
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This particular song is a song that has always kept me going these days. Although before now, it's not been like that for me as I have said YES instead of saying NO in so many cases, but now, I'm a changed person.
Atimes, saying YES to a NO is something that can bring inconveniences to one's life as the person saying yes may be saying it just to please the other person who might be asking him or her for a favor.
Some time ago, a friend of mine came to me weeping, I asked him what had befell him and he told me he was being duped in his business and that the business was on the verge of collapse.
When I heard this from him, I was moved with emotions and as a result, I consoled him and charged him not to give up on rising again. I told him such had happened to me before and that I overcame it. When he had heard all I told him, he was lifted in his spirit and I too was happy to have done the right thing which was to encourage him.
So, after all my charges and discussions I had with him, he left for his place, but in the night, he called to appreciate my words of encouragement and promised to abide by every single word I have told him which was so pleasing to me.
But not quite long, this man called me back and asked for my help. He said he would need me to help him with a startup capital. When I first heard what he said, I was a little bit confused and this is because I had nothing in with me or in my account as everything was too dry for me that time.
But because of how he has held me in high esteem, I couldn't turn him down and instead of saying NO, I said YES and he thanked me creditably well.
So, after saying YES to his request, I hung up the call and I began to think of where to get money just to please my friend. So, after a thorough thought, I decided to help him with the money by taking a loan from my cooperative and this I did to please the man out of my own inconvenience. Less I forget, I have never obtained a loan in my life and the one I took for the man was my first loan request which comes with a high interest rate.
Furthermore, paying the loan back was a little bit difficult for me as it affected me and my family living. It also affected my finances as I could not pay my children's school fee on time.
Although, the man did not forced me to help him get the money at all cost, but because of my wish to please him and also for him not to see me as a bad person, i ditched my own convenience for the man happiness and afterwards life was a kind of unbearable for me to live.
So, ever since then, I have learnt to say NO for NO and YES for a YES and this has really paid well for me.
However, I'm not saying helping people is not good, neither am I saying yes is not good, but if we are to say YES to a NO, we must do it without hurting ourselves as this may affect us negatively if care is not taken.
In conclusion, it's good to say YES to a YES and a NO for a NO. Saying YES while you mean to say NO might be costly if care is not taken.
Thanks for reading.
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