Last Week a friend of Mine had her Whatsapp Status and Facebook timeline filled with a lot of controversial articles both in Videos and Text. After a few days of Rants, complains she finally opened up to the Public that her younger sister was in a somewhat kind of abusive relationship with her supposed POM(Peace of Mind). According to her, the relationship has Lasted for a couple of years and for this couple of years her sister has been abused by this Guy.
She has been abused, apologized to by the guy, gifts were given countless times and they would get back together again. Now my question:
How Can One Find Love in An Abusive Relationship?
Well, we may say there's no relationship void of misunderstandings, there will always be chaos but also there will be calm depending on how the people involved handle the situation.
Intentionally remaining with an abusive partner is more of writing your own death wish. A healthy relationship should be abuse free irrespective of one's mental state. Reasons are because Abusive or Toxic relationships can be a very devastating situation for anyone. Physical, emotional, or verbal abuse can deteriorate one's self esteem as well as leave mental scars which might never go off.
Abuses can Vary from from just the Normal Physical abuses like hitting to emotional abuses like manipulations, and other narcissistic behavior. Gaslighting and verbal abuses can not be left out as well.
Signs of an Abusive Relationship*
Constant criticism or belittling
Control over daily activities or decisions
Emotional or physical isolation
Fear of retaliation or punishment
Self-doubt or loss of confidence
Unexplained injuries or absences
Disregard for boundaries or consent
I'm free to say that I could be very Obsessed with someone I love, you might find it not really Healthy but that's how I am wired to Love. I believe in being committed, sacrificial and intentional with my relationship, spiced up with Discipline. But with all these characteristics, if I should in any way find out that I'm being manipulated or I perceive some toxic Traits I would Dash out immediately without looking back.
I believe my partner should not in any way initiate abuses to a point of escalation and then lash out the abuse on me with the intention of apologizing and buying gifts to persuade me back. It's simply a trap to take a trip back into the Lion's den.
Reasons Like:
Fear of retaliation and harm
Final dependence
Peer pressure
Social isolation
are very wrong reasons to remain in A toxic relationship. In the past few years, a lot of deaths have been recorded. Death caused by Abusive relationship, abusive marriage in which the victim kept quiet and bore the inhumane actions with hope that there will be a change.
Imagine a situation like them leaving, and seeking help, their lives would have found some safety.
There is no Love in an Abusive relationship, no matter what. Your Partner is meant to be a safe haven and a place you could run to looking for safety. Prioritize your overall self and seek help if needed.
Breaking free from an abusive relationship requires courage, resilience, and support. By recognizing the signs, understanding the cycle of abuse, and seeking help, survivors can reclaim their lives and rebuild their sense of self.