Emotions are in diverse ways and whether we like it or not, at one point or another we are going to display series of emotions, it could either be crying over the death of a loved one, losing a relationship you’ve built for years or even losing a job at a critical point in your life or finally getting a yes from the woman of your dreams and so much more.
In all of these emotions, one particular emotion that is unique to most humans if not all of us is the emotions that comes when we are not satisfied with something and we just feel really irritated about it that we are tempted to do what we won’t do on a normal day and that is Anger. Anger is one of those numerous emotions that we will mention almost at the top of the list of the different emotions one can think of. The thing is, if you’ve not baffled with the emotion of being angry then you are lucky.
Yours sincerely have had series of experiences with this particular emotion and it was a really hard nut to crack but thank goodness I was able to make progress with my mode of managing it overtime. I was still a little girl back then but I had problems controlling my anger and it was even harder because it felt like I was always vexed every single day by a lot of things. I would most times let that anger get the best of me because it was mostly justifiable but then I still hated the fact that I had to get angry over some certain things.
The number one thing that helped me manage my anger was people even as they were also the ones that cause me to get angry most times. When I’m angry it’s very easy to know because almost everything about me spells it out. I hate keeping a grudge so if I’m angry with you I try as much as I can to show it so we can hopefully talk about it and move on but then sometimes I find myself struggling to even want to listen to the one who has got me vexed.
People were able to help me know how to manage my anger issues because they kept telling me about it and I didn’t like it so the best thing to do was to change for the better. One of the major reasons that helped me in controlling my anger was when my younger brother told me one day when I was trying to have a conversation with him. From his own point of view, I was one of the people he looks up to and seeing me get angry was something he does not like.
I took out time to reflect on what he said and ever since that day I’ve made deliberate efforts to work on myself. The truth is, anger is one emotion that one has to be deliberate about working on if not it would be almost impossible because you are definitely going to see, hear and experience things that will get on your nerves. But when you are aware of every situation around you, you will be able to tell when a situation is just after getting you angry.
So the best way to manage your anger is by knowing first that you have anger issues and being intentional about working on it. Don’t think you are immune to not getting angry too, as that is one trick that might make it harder for you to work on your anger issues. Keep an open mind and be willing to listen to criticism more often so you can build your mind towards how to react when some criticisms are not just nice.
I hope this little tips help you start managing your anger problems. Feel free to leave your thoughts and contributions that will help others learn as well.