@lordvdr is a saint. He has put up with so much aaarrggghh from me already this year. On the plus side, we now have a place to start. After weeks of feeling like crap snd exhausted and randomly having

My father's mother was abandoned with 3 children when my father was 8 years old, my mother grew up in a dirt floor shotgun shack in a national forest in South Carolina back in the 1950's. For all that