One of the reasons communication fails for so many is because we are afraid to ask for what we want. We all have needs and desires. Some of them more important than others. The idea is to communicate what we want with the other person involved.
The moment we are afraid to communicate clearly, the thing we desire becomes out of our reach. Part of this failure for some of us is not knowing what we want. Some of us know what we want, but are too afraid to ask for it. Some of us do not know what we want. When we fail to do either of these, we are chaining ourselves to our desires.
The first step is to know what we truly want from ourselves or from another person. The next step is to conquer our fear. We may not always get what we want, but at least we are communicating more clearly.
"Express yourself, instead of repressing yourself".
Madonna, Express Yourself, 1989