Many people want to live in peace and inner tranquility, but do not know how to get it. Many of them believe, from a childish point of view, that these states occur without more and ... nothing is further from the truth. These states, and all, are always effects or consequences of a certain cause. And this is always in the mental aspect of the person.
So happiness, sadness, fear, joy, anxiety, patience, impatience and the rest of the totality of states that we feel - because the emotional aspect is involved - always has its origin in some kind of idea or thought which is almost always based on a belief, be it conscious or unconscious. The belief can be understood in a simple way as an idea of the mental plane that I have believed as truth, that I have not yet questioned and that may not correspond to reality. The number of people who harbor a huge number of limiting beliefs is enormous. And depending on what you believe, you will experience the events of your life. That's how fundamental they are.
The thing is complicated when in addition to beliefs - we say that almost always unconscious or not reviewed and updated - human beings move by priorities. And these also are usually not aware and much less taken into account or revised.
Thus, if a person believes at a deep level that he has no value and that for this he has to be recognizing and validating from the outside, his priority may be to call attention continuously through becoming a helpless and victimized character. This translates into their behavior which, far from achieving what is intended, precisely causes the opposite effect of rejection in others by that manipulative call of continuous attention. The matter is even more blind when the person also blames the world for how it is inconsiderate when it is she herself that is not responsible for what is emanating and causing on the outside. A loop of unconsciousness, ignorance and, almost certainly, suffering.
Priority may mean that a person considers something more important than another "something". And this happens at all times from the unreviewed beliefs that are defining everything in our life. Practically nobody knows consciously the system of priorities by which it moves in the world nor the system of values associated to these priorities, being all for what they are manifesting their behaviors, thoughts, emotions and verbalizations, for good, for bad and for regular. Virtually no one has done a review of their priorities and scale of values. In the case of the previous person, it could be, for example, once the dynamics become conscious, deciding to prioritize recognizing and valuing oneself above all else - which has nothing to do with selfishness. mobilizing a new scale of values.
Everyone wants to live in peace, but practically nobody considers it as a priority in their life. And a priority in life goes before anything else, first of all. Everyone wants to live in peace more, how many thoughts of peace are thought, emotions of peace are felt, verbalizations of peace are said and peace actions are carried out? If my priority is to live in peace I will have to know that this happens in my mind and if I turn it into my priority I will accompany it with values such as attention, perseverance, practice, decision, intention, patience, humor and other values understood as what it adds and It gives value to my life.
