How vast is the difference between " what i think " and " what people actually understand ".
How many of us have been successful to put in words exactly what we want to say and even if we do the real success is only when people understand it the right way.
The root of many of the problems , be it in a relationship or friendship or family or colleague or personal or official, is misunderstanding. We think of something , and by the time we put in words and tell it , it becomes something else at the receiver end. And nobody takes time or patience to resolve the misunderstandings and hence we let it grow until it ruins up.
One needs to work on how we can try to talk our hearts out frankly and make sure it is understood in the right way.
For that a person who is trying to convey anything needs to ,
- Let go of ego
2 . Talk patiently - Talk in a pleasing way that others will take interest to listen
- Talk with right , positive attitude and body language
- Talk with pauses and make sure the receiver gets it in right way by asking any simple questions or making brief points
- Learn the understanding level of the receiver and try to keep the conversations straight and simple accordingly
And the receiver needs to ,
- Let go of ego
- Listen with patience and not hurry up in assuming what is being told
- Listen by showing interest
- Put yourself in the shoes of the person from the giving end and take it in a positive manner
- Clarify doubts if any then and there and make sure the understanding is right
- Prepare yourself to be in sync with the one who is talking
It doesnt mean we have to keep the conversations formal until it is necessary ( in professional matters) but try to keep it the way that makes interesting for whoever is involved in the conversation. Erase the misunderstandings before letting it grow until it ruins and breaks up and reaches a point where nothing can be done about it.