A lesson I learned from the book "The Subtle Art of not giving a fuck" by mark manson is one I will never forget so soon.
The chapter started with different scenarios and moved on to talk about how painful or pleasant a situation is due to our sense of responsibility for it by our choice or not.
This made me remember the times I wanted to read for my school exams and it felt as though the world was on my shoulder and I saw it as hard work, but reading for my pleasure was fun to do and I felt super cool about myself.
When we feel we are choosing our problems, we feel empowered. When we feel that our problems are being forced upon us against our will, we feel victimized and miserable
The simple realization that we are responsible for everything that occurs in our life no matter the external circumstances birth all personal improvement and growth
Yes, indeed, we can't always control what happens to us, but we can always control our interpretation and our reaction to it, and whether we consciously recognize it or not, it's our choice.
"Life’s a series of choices, and whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing."
These words keep resounding in my head guiding me whenever I intend to make a decision or whenever a result from a decision I took plays out. Whatever we see playing out in our lives is because we choose to let it happen and our response to it.
"We don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond."
One of the most wonderful gifts that humans have is the ability to choose. Whether or not we are conscious of it, we are always making choices. to the end.
By rejecting one option, we are inadvertently selecting another.
We feel strong and in control when we choose our battles. When those circumstances exert an unwelcome influence on us, we frequently experience misery and sadness.
What we are choosing to care about is the actual question. What principles are we choosing to live by? What criteria do we use to evaluate our lives? And are those wise decisions in terms of metrics or values?
"The point is, we are always choosing, whether we recognize it or not. Always. It comes back to how, in reality, there is no such thing as not giving a single fuck. It’s impossible. We must all give a fuck about something."
The fact we think we don't care about anything is showing how we care so much about so many things when we can just sort out and limit the scope to care about what matters, and whether we like it or not our choices point out what we care about.
WITH GREAT RESPONSIBILITIES COMES GREAT POWER
He made a striking point by twisting the popular quote "With great power comes great responsibilities" because the more we accept responsibilities in our lives the more power we will exercise over our lives and to accept responsibilities over a problem in our life is the first step to solving it.
Even our choice of value hurts or builds us and we are responsible for the problem that choice brings to us and sometimes we don't always have to be at fault for problems before we take responsibility for them.
"Faults and responsibilities are two different terms, fault results from choices already made and responsibilities result from choices one is currently making, every second of every day."
It may be my fault that I am putting my thoughts down about this chapter but it is your responsibility to read and conclude on it, so you see, you just chose to read through this. Ha ha