说起强制自己遗忘的原因，是在95年父亲的离世，我一直走不出来，特别痛苦，一难受腿还麻。担心自己身体会因此出现问题，自己劝自己接受这个事，每个人都必须经历的，强制自己别总是去想这件事，想法转移自己的注意力。
The reason why I am forced to forget myself is that in the death of my father in 1995, I have not been able to come out, especially painful and painful. Fear that my body will have problems, and i can persuade myself to accept it, everyone must go through it, and force myself not to think about it all the time, and to divert my attention.
多亏了这一年我来到了城里中学，这所中学是寄宿制学校，班主任的工作比较多，学校安排我为一个班的班主任，刚当班主任的紧张和忙碌转移了我的注意力，这样白天减少了我想父亲的痛苦。可是晚上一静下来就又开始在宿舍哭，想父亲。每天这样，只要一闲下来就哭，就想。持续了太久的时间，我觉得长期这样下去身体会出问题，就强制自己转移注意力遗忘这件事。慢慢发现，这个方法还是可以的。虽然慢，但是我还是通过这种方法走出来了。
Thanks to I went to the city middle school this year, this middle school is a boarding school, the teacher in charge of the work is more, the school arranged for me for a class of the teacher in charge, just on duty, director of the tension and busy diverted my attention, so I want to father's day reduced pain. But at the night, I began to cry in my dormitory, thinking of my father. Every day, as soon as I get down and cry, I miss my father. After a long period of time, I felt that I was going to have problems in the long time, and I forced myself to turn my attention away from it. Slowly i found out, this method is still ok. It was slow, but I came out of it this way.
有了失去父亲这么大的伤痛，我觉得其他的事都是小事，当我工作中受到委屈的时候，当有人伤害我的时候，我伤心难过，但是我能过去，而且我也是用这种强制自己遗忘那些不愉快的事的方法，努力遗忘给自己产生负面情绪的人和事。多去看一些积极正面的东西，专注自己需要做的事情上。
i had lost my father so much pain, I think of other things are all little things, when I work by injustice, when someone hurt me, I sad, but I can in the past, and I also use the method of forced myself to forget those unhappy things, trying to forget to produce negative emotions of the people and things. Look at something positive and focus on what i need to do.
其实当时强制自己遗忘，只是特别痛苦，真不知道自己现在已经有了遗忘伤心事的能力，我记得心里学书上有个词是“选择性记忆”，所以我认为应该跟“选择性遗忘”一个道理吧。
i was forced myself forgotten actually, it is particularly painful, really don't know i now have the ability to forget sorrow, I remember the in the mind to learn the book has a word is a "selective memory", so I think that also can be "selective amnesia".
这种强制让自己遗忘的方式确实对我起了作用，现在，只要不去刻意的去想自己的伤心事就想不起来了。
我现在的观点是有选择的去遗忘，为什么有选择的遗忘呢，因为我还有好多需要我必须记住的人和事，这些是不能遗忘的。所以遗忘也得筛选，也就是“有选择的遗忘”。
This kind of compulsion to let myself forgetfulness really has played a role in me, now, as long as not to try to think of the sorrow of myself is not to remember.
My current opinion is that I have chosen to forget, why I have chosen to forget, because I still have so many people and things that I must remember, which cannot be forgotten. So forgetting also has to be screened, which is "selective oblivion".
如果你有什么痛苦走不出来，不妨试试这种方法。
If you have any pain, try this method.
