看了一个相亲节目，有个23岁的小伙子看上了一个40岁带着一个11岁儿子的女嘉宾。
看到这一幕马上把在场的爸爸妈妈给吓坏了，妈妈赶紧劝儿子，见劝不动儿子，赶紧去劝这位女嘉宾，还是做我儿子的姐姐吧，我们俩可以做朋友，说的很客气，但是表现出了坚决不同意，女嘉宾也礼貌地顺势说，"好的，做姐姐吧"。
男孩在场上说出了自己的理由，虽然自己个子挺高，身材也算魁梧，但内心特别没有安全感，从小因为爸妈忙于工作，自己一个人在家，所以从心底特别需要一个像这样成熟的大姐姐。
听到这里，他妈妈眼里泛起了泪花说，"孩子小时候确实是我们忙工作，顾不上他，但真不知道他内心是这样的。"
虽然儿子最终没有坚持自己的选择，但相信父母内心会很不是滋味。
是啊，主持人说的很对，没空陪孩子的父母们，你们知道孩子小气候不陪伴他们，孩子内心的感受吗，知道会影响到孩子长大后选择婚姻吗，当咱们有钱了，这一段缺失的爱却在孩子身上补不回来了。
找一个比自己大很多的女人找回妈妈的感觉,这叫恋母情结。
意识到重要性了吧，无论怎么难，把孩子带在自己身边。
i watched a dating show, a 23-year-old man saw in a woman, aged 40, with an 11-year-old son.
Seeing this scene immediately it gave frightened the presence of his mom and his dad, his mom hurriedly persuade his son, seeing still not persuade son, she went to persuade the female guest, "still do my son's sister, both of us can do a friend", said very politely, but she showed a resolute don't agree with it, the female guest also conveniently politely said, "ok, I'll do his sister".
the boy said the reasons, though he is quite tall, his shape also is big, but his heart particularly insecure, because the parents are busy working, as a child alone at home, especially need a mature old sister like her.
Hearing this, her mother was seen tears in her eyes, saying that she and his father was really busy at work when he was a child, but I didn't know he was like this.
Although the son eventually didn't stick to his choice, but i believed his parents were very complicated.
Yes, the host's words are very right, will not have time to accompany the child's parents, you know not to accompany their children ,children microclimate inner feelings, we must know it will affect the choice marriage when they grow up, when we have money, but that a lack of love in children don't come back.
This is called the Oedipus complex, and he will see a woman who is much older than herself to find her mother's feelings.
Realize the importance of bringing your child with you, no matter how hard it is.
