As a young man I was a revolutionary and my prayer was to say to God: "Lord, give me strength to change the world." As I became an adult and realized that I had spent half my life without having managed to change a single soul, I transformed my prayer and began to say: "Lord, give me the grace to transform all those who are in contact with me. . Even if it's just my family and my friends. With that I am satisfied". Now that I'm an old man and my days are numbered, I've begun to understand how silly I've been. My prayer is this: "Lord, give me the grace to change myself." If I had prayed in this way from the beginning, perhaps I would not have wasted my life.
You have to pay attention to things, but improvements you'll start to bore, it's like when children have a new toy and in a short time they learn to use it, they touch button A and B and voila, and when they do not find more variables soon they get bored, that's why you have to develop your imagination with higher goals. Boredom is not: "I do not feel like it", is that we can not improve it. For example, the football fan is bored if he sees ten football games, but the Technical Director does not get bored because he can improve it. I have to look at what I did wrong, and transform it into growth.
You have to build forward, otherwise the past will always hurt.
Pay attention to what we do and build forward is not wanting to improve the other but to us. For example, sometimes we say: "I found the love of my life", but love is not found; and it is built twenty-four hours a day, or we say: "she ruined my life", that is putting your problem in the other, or "I ruined it" and that is a superficial reading. In a couple, if he or she does not want to talk, someone has to take the initiative, because you can not build it alone, and you also never finish building.
Our mind never stops thinking, but we should not put a negative emotional charge on it, we should not move by affection, like on Facebook: "I like it, or I do not like it". We have to move by result, by growth, we need to heal our attention, because according to it our growth will be.
One day David had gone to Gath, where Goliath the Philistine had been born, to which he had cut off his head; He was fleeing because Saul was persecuting him, and the people there when he saw him said: "Is not this one they said: Saul killed his thousands and David his ten thousands?" David was afraid, they were saying something good about him, but it caused him anguish, because that opened a challenge door for him: "How can I sustain it tomorrow?", They were going to realize that he was pretending to be like one of them, and then "he became crazy" so they would not recognize him, however:
It does not matter that you are being persecuted, because even the devil remembers your past victories!
At that time David wrote Psalm thirty-four: "The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him and defends them." Ten years David was fleeing, why? Because in all that time, God made him step on the earth that was going to be his. David was graduating in character, was trained to have mature reactions and be corrected.
All the problems are in your mind, all the solutions are in your mind and all the blessings are in the mind of God!
We are dispensable: if we believe that we are essential, we are wrong, because they can always replace us with another person. But we over demand, "we are not the last desert coca."
We have to learn to resolve conflicts: we do not have to always do it in the same way. For example, when problems are minor you have to avoid them, at other times you have to confront them. And sometimes, you have to give in when the relationship is more important than the issue in conflict.
If you only see what you do well, your power becomes omnipotence:
We stress because of omnipotence, we do not want to delegate. The perfectionist to the pain lives it as a humiliation, because it does not support the error. Those who are mistreated also feel omnipotent, because they say: "I'm going to change that."
This happens when you only see your mistakes. The jealous one is stopped in its errors, in its defects. The envious ones have errors, because they feel threatened by others. The "doormat", looking for a sadist, and ends up being "the mule" of the others, why did you put on a doormat ?, because you were needing a little affection.
You have to accept the two parts (power and impotence) and you will become a safe person. Errors allow you to grow, and each error you correct becomes potential.
To have a healthy esteem, is to recognize that sometimes we do things well, others more or less and others bad. All our life we are going to have good things and bad things. When a person does not show his bad things, it is because he is in conflict. And when a person does not show his good things, he is also in conflict; When each of us can accept these events we will be at peace. With errors and defects your esteem must be healthy. The issue is that we keep growing. This is the point, recognize them, but despite them give us the value we deserve.
