Heloo everyone,
People pleasing syndrome is a disease so I wanted to ask if you are suffering from this disease?馃槀. I am going to discuss a serious issue of our lives in a bit funny way :P. Well I am very selective in my life so I have some selective people in my life for those I can do anything. I try my level best to please them. Hence I am having People pleasing syndrome . 馃槣
Anyways apart from joke let's talk about it. In our lives if we have to please everyone then we become vassal to everyone. I do feel like I am a slave towards the feeling that what would happen if I will hurt my parents. I don't want to go against their wishes but if I want something in my life that they might not like then what would happen? If I go against them I am hurting them which I don't want to. Before doing anything I ask some questions myself. Is it that necessary in your life, can you evaluate the intention behind the thing you want in your life. Is it right for yourself. Sometimes doing right thing is not the case what thing matters the most is doing something for the right purpose.
Same thing implies to your close friends too. If you are too much busy pleasing them and yet they don't value your efforts simply stop pleasing them. Simple funda for friends if they don't appreciate your value they are not worth your time. But this theory doesn't apply when it comes to your parents.
But that's the reality of the culture I live. This pleasing philosophy is in our roots. If you don't want being called uncultured you have to follow the cultural rules. But what I believe is divergence lies in the intention. You have to make clear this up if it is about seeking acceptance or avoiding rejection. Ultimately it's an emotional trap.
It is a human philosophy we are slave to our emotions, desires and most importantly love. We expect a lot. We human tend to generalize to simplify. But do you know there are actually people around the world they appreciate what you are offering. So according to my philosophy key lies in acumen and scrutiny. I hope I've made some sense and I was able to deliver what I wanted to.
