All relationships within this physical realm will end at one point in time or another. This reality hit me hard when I was learning this lesson during my recover. It is profound as it helped me to take risks when it comes to entering into new relationships, knowing that there will be pain no matter what happens. So now I explore the benefits of those relationships knowing full well that it comes with feelings that hurt as well. It helped me put it all into perspective.
Some of my paternal grandfathers brothers and sisters. circa 1940's
People die, move away, have differences of opinion or even drift apart, such as what happened with my 4 great aunts and uncles in this picture. Makes no difference how it happens, but when it does, we are faced with the pain and mourning process. I accept this process and embrace it now where in the past I avoided it at all costs. I'm no longer afraid of the pain of loss.
There are two relationships that I want to cover in this post, my relationship with the state and with my vessel as these two relationships seems to be the hardest to deal with. The strategies for ending my relationship with each are very different.
The vast majority of my blog is dedicated to this relationship and if you want to learn more or put this post into context, then you have a lot of catching up to do. :) Before I could end my relationship with the state, I had to recognize that I was completely dependent on it. So the first step was to move off grid and become as independent as possible. That meant growing my own food, building shelter, collecting water, treating waste and all the other things that I've written about in regards to off-grid living.
I've witness many people working at removing themselves from the state but failing to take this first basic step. Then they struggle or even starve because they are not capable of taking care of themselves without the state or its corporate minions. This is a basic first step for freedom and it is not something that can be ignored or worked on later. Only when one is capable of looking after their vessel can they then move onto the next step.
Saying good bye to the state is a monumental process and involves ceremony as it is the day we become an adult. At that point we must declare the law form that we are going to govern ourselves under, otherwise we default to the default law form ... the state. But most importantly, it is critical that we declare peace and be peaceful in all our relationships from this point forward. The state is at war and will go to war against anybody who chooses violence or other hostile acts. But when we declare peace, we step outside of their mandate. By putting them on notice that we will no longer provide feudal service the state revokes all tenures and we are free go govern ourselves and provide for our needs. That is why living off grid is such an important step.
It is up to us to refuse all benefits and privileges from the state once we make this choice. The moment we accept a benefit or privilege, we have sworn an oath of fealty to them and we are sucked right back into their feudal jurisdiction. I went as far as to close out my bank accounts as well. I receive no mail as there are no more accounts setup under the persons name. I sent all the documents back to the state as well. I am not in possession of a birth certificate, drivers license, health care card, social insurance number, passport, etc. I sent it all back as it was not mine to begin with. All those documents are the property of the state and as such, I returned their property to them. Give unto Caesar what is Caesars! Any correspondence I got from the state is then sent back, a process I'll write about in a future post.
My law form is to love my neighbour as my self and to love Creator with all my heart, soul and mind. That requires that I love myself, declare peace and be peaceful! That is the foundation for my life ever since I made my declaration in April 2008. The thing about this relationship is that I am ending it of my own free will. I said goodbye because it is abusive and not healthy in more ways than I can count. This is a huge contract with my relationship with my vessel as it is now very healthy, respectful and desired completely!
Now that I'm no longer working for the state, I can focus all my energy into providing for my family. I know that one day my vessel will return to Mother Earth and I will move on to my next adventure. So my outlook on life has changed significantly. For me, it makes absolutely no sense that my two sons have to get jobs, apply for mortgages to get a home, go into debt and enslave themselves just to follow the 'dream'. This utopian vision that the government sold us all is nothing more than a nightmare of slavery and servitude.
My wife and I dedicated our lives to building a domain that is available to the family no matter what happens. We will not sell the domain in order to retire as it is not ours to sell. In fact, we are working on having the title and land patents dissolved so that the land returns to Creator so that we can be proper stewards of this land. No bank can take it away. That way our boys can build upon what we built so that their lives are easier as they don't have to start over. Every generation starts over and it is no wonder that we don't seem to get a head. This is a lesson we can all learn from the uber rich. They don't make their kids start over. Their kids inherit an empire and continue the family benefits.
For my family, if anything goes wrong, they always have a sanctuary to return to. My youngest is out there exploring the world and working hard. But he has a safety net far more valuable than what the state provides. So now he can take some risks and he seems to have found his footing now as he explore the outside world.
Over the last 11 years, my wife and I have worked hard to build the infrastructure we needed in order to provide for our basic needs. Now I must focus on simplifying the process to ensure she or anybody else can take over in the event that my vessel dies. I don't want anybody to be dependent upon me and so it is my responsibility to ensure that everyone out here can take over at any time. I think we do a great disservice to others by doing things for them. It detracts from their capacity to maintain their independence. Husbands have done this to their wives for years and I even now of some wives that do this to their husbands. A loving relationship will demand that we don't jeopardize the independence of our spouse.
Now it is my job to prepare the domain so that even when I'm gone, my wife and family can maintain their independence. This domain is not mine to sell and profit from. It belongs to Creator and my family has dedicated their lives to being proper stewards of this land. I pray that leading by example rubs off on my sons and when they have families they will return here to raise them and steward this land for their families with the idea of keeping this place viable for at least 7 generations!
