Comparison is a big destroyer of a good relationship. I'm sure you must have experienced a relationship where either you or your partner always comments on how perfect another couple both of you are familiar with are more cozy or industrious with each other than you too are. In such situation, you can't help but to suddenly feel inadequate or just not enough for your partner.
Most of the time, what we see in other people's relationships is what they want us to see, which may be their strengths. Now the question is; What about their weaknesses? Or do you think their relationship has reached perfection? When you compare the perceived strengths in someone's relationship to your own, you'll only end up putting yourself and your partner under undue pressure.
Not all processes and formulas that works in other people's relationship will work for you, you need to understand what works for you and stick to it. For the relationship to work, stakeholders need to develop the relationship and take responsibility both individually and collectively. The relationship you are jealous of is not uncommon, they also have to deal with their own problems to the point of difficulty, so why not go it alone?
What makes people so frustrated in a relationship is the expectation of perfection, without which they lose interest in the relationship. Yes, you have to realize that just like you, your partner is neither perfect nor perfect. Once you understand this, you will lower your expectations and work to improve them.
When you always compare your weaknesses with the strengths and strengths of others, you will not improve your weaknesses. The thing you should worry about most is not becoming like others or exceeding their strengths, but improving yourself. If you break someone else's record but don't beat your own, you're still not making progress.
Just as everyone is different, relationships should also differ in their approach and what applies to one person should not become the norm for others. Once you understand this, you will focus more on building your own relationships rather than constantly comparing your relationship with other people's own.
When you set the standards for someone else and act like them, the best you can find is a second version of that person, not the original. Likewise, when you lose focus on your relationship to focus on someone else, you can lose sight of your own uniqueness, and in the process lose someone precious. I hope we learn from this post.
